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I get to be a stay at home mom and be with my son, I get money to spend and I have ben with him 4 years.
BUt iam not happy, I am longing for something else and it isnt him or anyone else for that matter.
The thing is almost a year ago he physically assualted me (like beat up) and I almost called the cops on him, but then he pretty much begged me not to and he would change...since then he hasnt done anything.
But I am afraid that incident seriously deleted any loving feelings I had with him and I have been living a lie since then.
I have told him this, and he said he doesnt want me to leave or care that he is living a lie.
I dont know what to do.

2006-11-18 17:59:52 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Since the abuse was a one time incident and isn't continuing he has shown that he knows what he did was wrong. I would reccomend marriage counseling. However counseling will only work if your both willing to put in the effort to work on the relationship. If after counseling you still are unhappy and do not find the love you had is still there you should reconsider the relationship.

2006-11-18 18:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lachelle 3 · 0 0

Sometimes women rationalize an abuse and compromise their lives just because the man promise not to let it happen again. Nothing is guaranteed and why should you hang on because of the other variables that seems to be going well.. Money don't buy happiness. You also need to find your own calling. How about doing a course. What was your passion before you met him? Get back to what goals you had set for yourself and fulfil them. Once you do things that you enjoy you should be contented with yourself and be able to love yourself. I think that you are loathing you right now, instead of loving you..
You also have a child to care for and you need to let him know that you have strength and character. Your unhappiness will eventually affect almost everything in your life. If he doesn't care that he is living a lie what does this say to you and how does this make you feel?
counselling is not a cure. If you have to force someone into doing something, what does this say to you. You need to look at the bigger picture in more ways than one. Yes, it is a big decision but write down what you want to get out of it and what it is doing to you.
Take care..

2006-11-18 19:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Wei r 2 · 0 0

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