Have any of you ever masturbated and thought about a step dad or any family member? I feel really depressed about it. I did it like 1-2 years ago. One of my friends told me she did it too and some people tell me it is very wrong to do and some say it is normal. I did stuff with my cousin (a girl also) about 1 yr. ago and before that too but i realize now it's nasty and i guess i never really thought about it. I hear alot of people especially mostly girls do things like that when they are around that age. I am 17. I did stuff with her for awhile and stopped about 1 year ago because i am so depressed from that and actually having those thoughts. If you don't want to admit it here because it's not something you tell people then you can email me.
2006-11-18 17:34:33 · 5 answers · asked by Jessica L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IT SOUND LIKE YOU NEED TO GET SOME COUNSELING
FOR YOUR PROBLEM. TALK TO SOMEONE OTHER
WISE THIS ISSUES WILL CONTROL YOUR LIFE.
2006-11-18 17:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel so bad, it wasn't that long ago when people married there cousins. Its not that that is bothering you, you have to face the root of the problem. What do you think of yourself, and what is making you feel bad besides the obvious? At that age you do a lot of weried stuff, and its weried because after you do it that's when people want to talk about it to you. Maybe you want to get close to a family member and you don't know a way but sexually.
Again, its not about the sex, but I suggest you search, when it is painful you know its working, and find out your true pain. If it was something else you would be feeling the same way, so find the root. Its not about the sex, but from experience its just probably that you want to be accepted into a family group and you believe you have forever denied taht entrance. You won't feel better until you face your desires and what the pain is really coming from.
2006-11-18 17:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Muse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i've never really even thought about a family member when i'm doing anything sexual, and whenever i randomly did i'd be so grossed out my sex drive would just be totally killed.
see to me that's weird, but then again there is that creepy saying like 'forbidden fruit is the sweetest' or something. as long as you dont act on it, i guess it's not wrong. and if it makes you feel any better, i have this friend who jacks off whilst thinking of zombies.
feel better! :D
2006-11-18 17:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by mica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax ... it's just sex. You are around the age when people experiment. You have done nothing wrong with your cousin. Also, there is no such thing as thought crime, so your fantasies belong to yourself and yourself alone. Be careful who you share them with.
2006-11-18 17:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by R1Bryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is normal...the other stuff you did and stopped is too, i think...try to 'let it go"....so it doesn't bother you anymore...and DO NOT TELL OTHER PEOPLE..you know how a--h---s can USE it against you!!!
2006-11-18 17:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋