I treat her well, show her affection, and still she snaps and raises her voice at me from time to time. I told her I want out of the relationship, but she says she'll change. Can people really change? I love her, but i refuse to be her whipping boy, and I've told her this many times. I believe her attitude comes from her past experiences...I am running out of compassion and understanding...am I wrong??
2006-11-18 17:15:45 · 19 answers · asked by alex m 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, she can change, but it won't happen overnight. She'll most likely need some professional help (prob short term) to find the source of her anger. While she does that, she'll also find some tools to help her control it. I'd go for the one-on-one counselling, and make an anger management class a secondary choice.
Now it will be up to her to decide how much she wants to change for you.
Good luck.
2006-11-18 17:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, people don't really change like that.
Assuming that she yells at you less, that doesn't make her any less angry than she is. She just may find another way of taking out her anger and that may not be to your benefit.
Since you're already thinking about it, you need to get rid of her. Right now, the only one suffering is you. Do you really think that she's worried about this?
She hasn't changed already because this is her true nature. You fight because you're trying to change her nature and she is resisting it. It is better for the both of you to go your separate ways. She can find another guy that is more submissive and you can find someone better for you.
2006-11-18 17:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by DA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if all she does is yell and snap than maybe you should leave. How many times did she say she was gonna change? Think about that, if it's been numerous times than I'd just leave her . Obviously the only way that she'll know that you're serious is if you show her by leaving her. If you keep staying than she'll keep thinking that you're full of **** .
2006-11-18 17:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by bReE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With God it can. I've seen it happen.
Also, if her greatest desire, her #1 dream is happening, (or one of the important ones) she will start to see the world through rose colored glasses. And she will not so easily lose her temper. She's not happy. She's frustrated. Everything she experiences goes through a filter. Find and remove the filter.
But still, eventually, her life will turn sour again. It always does. She has a tendency to react badly. And without a firm commitment to God, it's going to be hard for her to break it, especially without counseling.
2006-11-18 17:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong. We humans tend to be creatures of habit and change is very hard, but not impossible. No one deserves to be yelled at or treated poorly in a relationship. If she is really committed to change ask her to attend an anger management class or go to relationship counseling with you. If she commits to that step then change is possible. If not, then i would suggest finding someone who treats you with the respect that you deserve.
2006-11-18 17:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by jmethod81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE..........just like a guy says hell change we dont either . If you truly treat her the way you say that you do an she still disrepects you she may need someone that treats her the way she treats you to see the lite an what she missed out on, im like that with my man but im pregnant so unless shes preg im sure there s someone else out there that will respect you as you try to her. Good LUCk
2006-11-18 17:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by mommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course people can change but , they have to really want to and someone with an anger problem could probably use professional help in the form of counseling.
2006-11-18 17:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you love her, you will stay and maybe go to couseling or something, everyone has issues, and if you leave and find someone else they might have another issue then youll just be running from problems , i would get counseling and maybe after all you have tried and it still doesnt work, then maybe it is best to part, but least you tried , I just think if you love someone you will try..........
2006-11-18 17:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by july 23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say move on. She's not going to change and I'm sure you don't want to be stuck with a ***** for the rest of your life. There are plenty of genuinely sweet and kind women out there waiting for you.
2006-11-18 17:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she will not change. She is more strong willed than you and will be running over the top of you in this relationship. It is not your fault. Find a nice girl who will respect you and speak to you lovingly.
2006-11-18 17:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋