I've been seeing this man for about two and half months. We spend time together 3 or 4 days a week. We're having sex--great sex regularly and have agreed to be "sexually exclusive" since we had our STD screenings and are not using protection. The relationship has it's quirks...he'd rather chat on Yahoo than talk on the phone for instance. But over all things are pretty good....however I don't feel like I am officially his girlfriend. Thanksgiving is next week...he asked me what I was doing, but didn't extend an invitation to join him and when I said I was thinking about cooking and would love to have him over his answer was that he didn't know what he was doing.
I'm confused---am I his girlfriend? I feel like I'm in limbo...not really his girlfriend but more than a friend with benefits....and if I'm not his girlfriend, does that mean he's still looking?
2006-11-18 17:06:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to talk with him and clarify the relationship you have with him... does he considers you as his girlfriend or what? whatever answer he would give you, you're partly to be blamed... It always takes two to tango ;-)
2006-11-18 17:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sapphire 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When do you see him? Does he call late at night, come over...yada yada yada...then leave? If so, you're not a girlfriend. You're a booty call.
If you want more from a relationship, find someone else.
Want a definite answer from him about whether or not he's looking around? Insist on protection next time you do it, and don't give him a reason why. If he questions you and gets upset, he may be actually into you for the long haul. If he goes along with it, he's probably getting some on the side.
2006-11-19 01:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by C_n_Dman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but you are "the girlfriend" when he says it. I know the agony of "wondering" at times, but with some other guys , its been easy, they have said, "I think of you as my girlfriend"....but honey, do you think of him as your boyfriend? Maybe pull back the reigns a bit, don't be so available, then he'll miss you and appreciate what he has and may realize that he wants you to be his girlfriend.....exclusively. Some guys get really freaked out about it, so don't bring it up, unless you are prepared for an answer you may not want to hear. Good luck luvy!!!
2006-11-19 01:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been down the same road, maybe more than once. It was never worth it. Try cutting back the sex, see if u get a response.
2006-11-19 01:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. ask him what is he looking for and what oes the furture look like for yall relationship are yall together or not
2006-11-19 01:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by take it or leave it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him
it has to be a mutual thing
no one person or thing can determine that
2006-11-19 01:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by luis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he tell you babi gurl you the only one or when he on the phone wit one of his boys and they ask where hes at and he says chillin wit my gurl or something like dat ---------ya dig
2006-11-19 01:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by pretty gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey..you are his girlfriend alright...but his other girlfriend or wife is in the way
2006-11-19 01:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by James C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is best to simply ask him.
2006-11-19 01:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋