My friend called me today and gave me this shocking news , the guy she likes and going out with lately , called her tonight and told her about his ex , well this guy has slept with alot of girls year ago , he wanted to change and he changed since he dated my friend and wanted to change his life , she had a hard time to deal with the fact that he slept with alot of girls , today he told her about this girl he slept with who got pregnant while back and she gave birth , after this while she called himt onight to surprise him that he is the father of the kid (the girl lives in another state and gave him the results over the phone that her sons father is him) can that actually be ? doesnt he need to be tested as well?
Okay there is two questions here , could this be lie and shouldnt he be tested to be really sure that he is the father? not only her being tested to prove that?
second question , if that is true what she should do about him? i think she should let go of him and just be his friends , because i think it wont work knowing there is a kid out there and he is a father , and for sure he will do anything for the kid and there will be this connection here and there forever between him and his ex or just those problems she is going to deal with.
P.S the girl doesnt like my friends b/f or liked him that much before , they were togather for only few weeks when they slept togather , so as you can tell there wasnt any "love" or serious thing
Thanks.
2006-11-18 17:01:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He should probably take a paternity test to see if it's true.
I don't see why she should leave him just because he has a kid, that's so shallow. Well yeah he's going to have a relationship with his ex but that's because she's the mother of his kid. It's not like he's going to get back with her. Your friend really needs to grow up and learn how to trust people.
2006-11-18 17:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, your friend needs to ask herself is this guy really telling her the truth or is he just feeding her some bull sh*t because that could be a possibility.
Now, once that is out of the way, it can not be determined that he is the father without him being tested. There is the possibility that he knew about this all along and just didn't plan on telling your friend until he knew whether or not he was the father. I mean, they only messed around for a few weeks so it was a big chance that he wasn't the dad so he could have figured why even tell your friend when the chances of him being the dad were pretty slim. He could have taken the test, and then once it was determined he is the dad, he could have came up with this entire story of saying "oh, I'm the dad." No man is dumb enough to believe he is the father without having taken a test so I believe he may be lying to your friend in having her believe he didn't know and never took a test.
As far as what your friend does, that's a tough one. If she can still date this guy then that's her choice. It's possible he lied to her, but right now what's at hand is he has a child he has to take care of. The child is out of town and so is the baby's mom so that's less problems for now.
The fact that he slept with a lot of women isn't that big of a deal. It's pretty common and he was honest with her about it and willing to change for her. So she just needs to decide if she can date a man who has a child.
2006-11-19 01:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way the child can be his unless he (the guy) has had a blood test to confirm or deny this claim.
Testing the baby alone does not prove anything.
It's amazing how many girls try to falsely claim a farther for there
baby, and often times it works.
Some men are gullable and fall for the lie, so tell this guy to have her PROVE he is the father..but without his blood type she has
no way of knowing, neither does anyone else.
2006-11-19 01:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are definitely right, he must be tested to know for sure if he is the father of the child.
The girl should dump him, he has slept around too much. Who knows just how many children will pop up in the future. She's on the road to a lot of hurt with him. Tell her to get out while she can.
2006-11-19 01:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) check if he's the father
2a) if he is the father leave him (staying will only bring problems)
2b) if hes not the father stay together (why linger on the past)
3) go on with your life
2006-11-19 01:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by luis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUND LIKE YOUR FRIEND HAS SOME THINGS THAT
SHE NEED TO WORK OUT WITH HIM. HE NEED TO FIND
OUT IF HE THE FATHER OF THIS CHILD FIRST, THEN
YOU CAN SEE WHERE TO GO FROM THERE. IF HE
IS THE FATHER HE WILL HAVE TO BE IN THE CHILD LIFE
ALSO THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILD. GET THE TEST
FIRST THEN GO FROM THERE. IT WILL WORK IT SELF
OUT IF THEY WANT TO BE TOGETHER.
2006-11-19 01:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋