we've been through a lot tokgether but i'm still young. i love him so much but i have guy friends and he doesnt like that i hang out with them.HELP! what shokuld i do.
2006-11-18 16:55:40 · 10 answers · asked by Teesa F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't settle down when you're 18. Geez, what are you thinking?
I was 18 too and felt like I had been through a lot, but the fact is, that you haven't. You're the smartest you've ever been, that's for sure, but there's so much you have left to experience before you "settle down". Your future self will be very mad at you if you married him now.
I don't doubt your love for each other, so that aside, what difference does it make if you got married or not? You really have to want to get married - for you, not for him. If he wants the same thing, that's when you're supposed to do it. Not just because he wants to get married.
You also wrote that you have guy friends and that he doesn't like that you hang out with them. That's indicative of future problems. Are you only supposed to have female friends for the rest of your life after you get married?
He isn't mature enough to tie the knot. Maybe after college. You can still date, so what's four more years if you're together and in love? I'll tell you that if you were to break up, you'll be very happy then that you didn't get married now.
2006-11-18 17:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by DA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 22 and I've been with my boyfriend since I was 17 (we're both the same age also) and we have a 3 year old son. He wanted to settle down also, but I just wasn't ready yet and I'm still not and he understood and he's willing to wait. If your not ready to settle down just yet than I suggest that you have a serious talk about it and tell him that your guy friends are just friends and nothing more, that you love him and only him. If he really really loves you like he says he does than he'll accept it and understand and be willing to wait until your ready.
2006-11-18 17:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by bReE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weird and wonderful coz she's lower than-age, does she look 14? act 14? yet I cant communicate, Im 17 going out with a 24 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous. If he treats her good ect, then honest sufficient, Older brothers are continually over-shielding.
2016-11-29 06:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by gnegy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends and family are really important! They will stand by you through thick and thin, guys however do tend to come and go. I realize you feel like you love this guy but be aware that if he really does care about you and your well being, he won't make you lose your friends and/or family (friends are family if you ask me). Tell him that your friends are important to you. Also tell him that is the way things were when you guys got together and your not about to change that now. Try not to sound too cold about it though, just be honest.
2006-11-18 17:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you marry this man you can say good by to your guy friends because if he don't like it NOW he will be worse latter. obviously he is jealous. if he don't want you around your male friends then he don't want you around any males unless he is with you.not the kind of guy you should settle down with.because you would be living his life not yours.don't get in a hurry with this person.why don't you test him. I don't think you should flirt.But just try it around his friends somehow or something.If he is really jealous of you then later it could be abusive. God Bless!
2006-11-18 17:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Panda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to tread lightly. If he says he's ready to settle down, but he doesn't trust you to be around other guys, he may turn abusive. Physically, mentally and emotionally. That is if he didn't already.
2006-11-18 17:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After that long, he should be able to trust you.
I have a lot of guy friends.
My boyfriend has a lot of girl-friends.
Trust is an important part of a relationship...
You NEED that, especially in a marriage.
2006-11-18 16:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i mean if he trust you and u love him their should be some sort of happy medium and you have to with it out i mean in group gathering with mixed sexes it shouldn't matter but having romantic dinners alone would be different i would think
2006-11-18 16:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By this much time, you both should have trust on each other.
If he doesnt trust you, what does that mean?
2006-11-18 17:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
THERE A SONG BY FREDDIE JACKSON IF YOU KNOW HIS SONGS IT GOES LETS TAKE IT NICE AND SLOW TOGATHER AS WE GO,,,,,, WHAT HE IS SAYING THAT WE HAVE TIME LETS NOT RUSH TO IT AND WHEN THE RIGHT TIME COME LETS HOP ON BOARD HOPE THAT HELPS................
2006-11-18 16:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋