How do I be like her?

Question

My sister was soo cool at the school she used to go to and I go to it now. So everyone dosnt know I am her sister. ONce they find out, there like "Your ___ sister!" Or "That is ____ sister?" like a good thing. And all the teachers at that school were like, "____ was my best student" like teacher pet way. How do I become like my sister? She being popular and everyone knowing her scence I go to the same school. And how can I be a teachers pet like her??? (please dont say be yourself because that is what I am not looking for)

Please dont say be yourself because I know I do and I dont care I just want you to answer! THanks!

Answer 1

Why do you want to be like someone else???

The world already has one of your sister...it doesn't need another. (What would be the point of that?!) It needs a different cool, popular person in her own right. People who are exactly like someone who already exists are boring to be around!

Wouldn't it be wayyyyyy cooler to be the first one of 'someone'....and have other people want to be like YOU?

It sounds to me like you want to be liked. The best way to do that is to show GENUINE interest in others. Get them to talk about themselves. Be sincere, not fake. Ask questions, and always make them feel good about *something* about themselves, no matter how small. But make it personal, and SINCERE...."Hi, Jenny! Wow...your hair looks really good today. Who cuts it for you?"....."Oooooo....what a pretty color that top is, Karen....where did you get it?"....."What interesting earrings, Michelle....I just love jewelry myself. Do you usually like gold or silver better?".....and....."That outfit really flatters you....have you lost weight?" is always a feel-gooder, too. If you see someone carrying a book, strike up conversation about it. Ask if they'd recommend it. Talk about what TV shows and music interests you might have in common. You get the idea. People won't always remember what you do or say, but they'll ALWAYS remember how you made them FEEL. You want people to smile when they see you coming, not run screaming in the other direction, looking for a place to hide.

Those are just conversation openers. Once that gets started, things have a way of moving on to tangents, and as a result, you might actually discover new interests you didn't even know you had. That's what makes a person fun to be around. What type of person do YOU like to be around? Adopt some of those traits and try them on for size to see how it feels. And read, "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Steven Couey. "How to Talk to Anyone about Anything" is another good book.

As far as academics....just do the best you can do for YOU. Don't compare grades to your sister. That's pointless. Trust me....teachers notice and remember the ones who try the hardest and who improve the most over the year. Take your studies seriously, but you can't FORCE yourself beyond a certain point....and that point is different for every person.

And yes....everything I said above is just a fancy way of saying 'be yourself'....it just involves a bit of figuring out for yourself who that is in the process. :-)

Answer 2

Here's the deal Twinkle ... you are in the teen years in which you are experimenting with different personas to see which one you like for the future. That's fine. All these folks telling you to be yourself don't realize that you are just trying on different personalities to see which fits.

Apparently, you like your sister's way of being. You like the idea of being a teacher's pet, you like the idea of being popular, you like the idea of being her sister. GREAT! I couldn't think of a better way to show your sister your love than emulate her.

You are lost about how to do so. Ask you sister for advice. Just tell her you wish you were more like her, what does she suggest? Does she have any ideas how to go about it? That way, you get her permission to basically copy her (as you try to see if her personality fits you) and she gives you the inside scoop on how it feels to be her.

Good luck -- and at some point, you will discover who "you" really are. I imagine it will be a combination of things, some from your sister, but some from other people and yourself. It's OK -- this is developmentally just something all people go through. You know all those folks who dress in black? They are going through it too ... and everyone else in high school. (And some folks never stop searching for themselves, but that's another story for another day). Have a good time!

Answer 3

Everyone is a unique person. Look for what you like most doing and then be the best there is. If you like to write , then excel in it. Teachers usually like those students who have initiative and are conscientious. It would not matter whether you are an average student as long as you do your best. Show your teachers you are interested in each lesson, by asking sensible questions, being first to submit assignments, being well behaved, helping out the teacher in the discipline of the class. And of course, it wouldn't hurt if you study harder and get good grades. I know this because I teach. Good luck.

Answer 4

I'm sorry if you don't want to hear that you need to be yourself, but that's where it starts. From there, you really need to have the social skills and an outgoing personality. If you don't have that going for you, there isn't a way to teach you to be cool.

You don't want to be a brown-nosing teacher's pet and you don't want to exist solely for other people to think that you're cool. Join clubs/sports/etc. and get involved. You will meet more people and have a chance to make the acquaintance of many people. Part of being popular means that a lot of people know who you are and that you're not your sister. You are your own person.

Answer 5

Well you can make yourself miserable trying to be someone you aren't OR you can be the best you you can be. First, if you really want to be a teacher's pet, do all of your homework and you migt brush up on your spelling. Teacher's like smart kids who do their homework. What is it that people like about your sister? I bet she was a good friend, helpful, cheerful. So do those good things that people like. You can be "like" your sister and still be you, just be good like her but do it your way. For instance, maybe she was good at choir and you are better at drama, you don't have to be in the choir but you can be like her by being good at what you do and being good to other people. That is cool.

Answer 6

make your own image and don't follow others. u just said, "don't tell be your self". but i dont understand why did u ask this question. as u know the answer already. u have only two choices. be like your sister or be yourself. if u chose to be like your sister then ask her how to become like her,or if u want to be your self then u know it already. by the way, what is the use of asking this question. one thing is for sure that u can't be like your sister, if u would have been smart enough , you wouldn't have asked this question to people. hey , who ever you are, don't get jealous.

Answer 7

well all i can say and i know you don't want to hear it but be yourself! be friendly, outgoing, helpful to others, befriend people who really doesn't have alot of friends, but you are not your sister and theres no way you can be because you are you and you are both different people. so just be yourself and if someone compares you to your sister even the teachers tell them i am ME not my sister. that will soon change things at the school.

Answer 8

This is a classic example of sibling rivalry.

So using her as the yardstick with which you measure yourself: If she was a great student, be a better one. Make yourself slender and attractive. Kiss up to the teachers. In other words be a phony and work it out in therapy when you're 30 something.

The only way to be happy in life is to figure out who you are and then be it, but maybe you don't want to be happy.

Answer 9

FIRST. Don,t get into Drugs or Acolhols please .2. study hards get good grades.3. Asks for Helps!!! 4. Have Confidents in yourself. 5. No bad Habits. 6. Don,t let boys talks you into doing things you don,t want to like engauging into SEX.7.Listens to someone you trusts.8.Love your Mother&father. 9.Being populars is fine, but your friends don,t put moneys in your pocket you go to school mind your business, do your works, you will susceed in everythings you do.10. ALL REMEMBER A LITTLE RAINS MUST FALL BEFORE THE SUNSHINES, what that mean you have good day and bad days.

Answer 10

Well, you should always do your best in school anyway. Study, pay attention, do extra credit, stay after if you need help, etc. But be friendly and out going. But don't change who you are for anyone to please others. You may find yourself miserable. You may want to be like your sister, just remember you aren't your sister. I think it's cute that you look up to her. She sounds like a great role model. Good luck. :-)