Who out there has loved an alcoholic? How do you deal? How long did you love him/her, or do you still? What does it mean to love someone like this? That we have no self-esteem?
2006-11-18 16:54:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does not mean you have not self-esteem, put that thought out of your mind.
I grew up with three alcoholic people, mom, dad and brother. I swore I would never let that happen to me, so far so good. However, my love for them has never changed.
Al-anon is a great place to start. You will learn how to deal with the persons addiction and you will also learn how to help yourself. It worked for me.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Love & Prayer.
Jo
2006-11-18 17:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from an ex drug addict and an ex alcoholic I can truly say this...If you really love him you will find a way to make him quit. If you don't, I can guarantee you that alcohol will ruin your life as well, if you are still with him. People will try and tell you that you can't make him quit and that's not entirely true. YOU CAN MAKE HIM WANT TO QUIT, if you enlist help. Most addicts don't have anything that means more to them than whatever it is that they are addicted to and won't want to quit until they go to jail, overdose and almost die, or hit rock bottom by some other means. You can be that rock that hits him before he hits it, and you will if you truly love him. Even if you don't mean more to him than what he is addicted to yet, you can find out what does, and that, if used THE RIGHT WAY, can be what makes him want to stop before it is too late. If you need help with strategies or have questions you can email me at anudderdaygone@yahoo.com. I am not with any official organization, nor do I suggest any one in particular, so I'm not going to try and sell you anything. Good luck!
2006-11-19 01:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by runninfool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love an alcoholic who doesn't do anything to stop this kind of addiction then I'll say you have no self_esteem.
If you love an alcoholic who really wants to do something to get over this bad addiction then I'll say you should be a big support to him/her.
Loving an alcoholic can cost you a lot in life. Think about it!
2006-11-19 00:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father is a recovering alch. and when he was drinking it was hard to love him but I think I loved him even more, or maybe just harder. My husband use to be a drug addict...its hard to cope and very strenuous and you lose patience and understanding but you must stay strong. Counseling can help...the main thing is to be there for him/her. I seriously could go on and on but I want to wish you the best of luck with whatever you are going through and I hope this has been somewhat helpful.
2006-11-19 01:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi im don, yesterday was my 21st bday and on monday im checking in to A.A. no jk, dealing with alcholics is very difficult, i grew up around a few and it was a bad deal. I suggest get away while you can and cut your losses, i know it may seem hard but you will thank yourself for it later. Trust me.
2006-11-19 01:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by Don A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have. he was wonderful when he wasn't intoxicated. I didn't stay long. We only dated, didn't get much further than that, but i really liked him, and thought the feeling was mutual.
What does it say about us? It says that we're human, and we love just as much as anyone else. But in this case, we made a bad decision.
2006-11-19 00:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in love with a drug dealer. much higher risk of prison time then an alcoholic.
2006-11-19 00:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-19 00:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by simle_g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋