I have a huge crush on my economics professor. I think that he's so cute and funny, and he's so easy to talk to. Therefore, I find it somewhat hard to pay attention in class. Gosh, I would love to make a move on him. But i don't wanna mess up. What do I do?
2006-11-18 16:47:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It will be unethical for him to date you or even talk to you about those things otherthan school related activities. If you did ask him out after the course has ended, he would reject you if he knows anything about code of conduct. I know you are thinking that this situation is an adult one but by you being a student and he is an employee of the university and someone else know about it and report to the professor's dean then he might not have a job. I know how you feel, but think about this.
I told my professor at the end of my course which had the same characteristics that "he need to stop being so cute because it was distracting the females in the classroom" in a funny way and he just laughed and gave no other response. Also, I think he is "gay" and I probably would not have had a chance in this lifetime. Good luck and happy Thanksgiving
2006-11-18 17:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by itsme 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well, I have the same problem. The attached is the best advice I can give you :).
"As a professor myself, I thought I might have something to add here, but you've gotten good advice already. I think you get to know him better, but after grades are in. I flirt with students all the time, but have a firm boundary on students who ask me out during the semester. If a student ever asks me out while I am actually teaching them, I will never after that be alone with them, ever. They'll be welcome in my office to discuss classwork, but the door will always stay open. There are very good professional reasons for this.
So wait until grades are due, and then go for it. After that, there is no professional relationship. He's just a guy. It might be true that you're reading too much into it... but there is *always* that possibility with anybody. The worst he can say is "no."
From my side of the podium, I can tell you several things: I get phone numbers *a lot.* It's easy to get a crush on teacher--- professors are sexy because they demonstrate excellence while engaging the most erotic part of your body: your brain. But as I said, I also flirt with students (because I'm a huge flirt anyway) and don't put much of a lid on my sexual energy (because that's who I am), but I *use* all that to keep students' attention, like you've been paying attention in this German class. It may be no more than that.
The other thing I can tell you is that professors are humans too, and humans are attracted to other humans. Students get crushes on me, and sometimes I get crushes on them too. Or rather, at my advanced age, I appreciate my students' humor, intelligence, wit, sauciness, and beauty.
I guess the upshot is that after the semester is over, he's a normal human being like any other. If you think there's an energy there, maybe there is, and it would be a shame to let it go."
2014-03-30 09:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by MRIhearts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way any relationship could be considered consensual because of the power differential with his professor status - that's the legal perspective. This can be a great learning experience for you in discovering what attracts you about this man so you can seek out those characteristics in a more suitable and equal partner. But GAWD if I were that professor I'd be fantasizing about it! If you want to play with fire wear skirts for about a week and give him a peek. See if he notices and starts paying more attention to you.
2006-11-18 16:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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I have a huge crush on my economics professor. I think that he's so cute and funny, and he's so easy to talk to. Therefore, I find it somewhat hard to pay attention in class. Gosh, I would love to make a move on him. But i don't wanna mess up. What do I do?
2015-08-18 16:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by Verlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big mistake to try to date your professor while he has the possibility of giving you a grade. It could get him in major trouble. Just pay attention in class. If, after you've gotten your grade, you're still interested, ask him out if you want.
2006-11-18 17:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just focus on the fact that the 2 of u can never work out. He's married and has a family, and u prolly don't wanna mess that up and cause a scene right? So start getting interested in other men. Focus on the words he is saying ONLY. good luck!
2016-03-17 01:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. He's not into you and even if he was, he cares more about his career than wanting to date you. Student's over romanticize professors. It doesn't work the other way around.
2006-11-19 02:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Peter 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the semester's over if you're gonna' make a move. Keep in mind that he can ruin your grade, and you can ruin his career, if you make a move while you're his student and things don't work out.
2006-11-18 16:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Brad 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Keep your thoughts to yourself! Your advances will only get you both into trouble, I'm sure he isn't about to lose his job over you. If you want to impress him then pay attention in his class for starters. Then when you aren't in his class and you want to strike up a conversation with him you won't sound like an idiot. But please notice how I said when your NOT in his class anymore!
2006-11-19 22:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by Guinness Guy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, don't. Not while he's your professor-because if he rejects you, then it can be awkward or embarrassing. Now, after he's not your teacher, then sista, go for it, and good luck.
2006-11-18 16:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋