WOMEN and GAMES!?

Question

I'm a guy by the way! :)

But when some (I said some) WOMEN play hard to get, and do it too much and the guy stops chasing and gives up interest, why do some women become all of a sudden become obsessed with the GUY?

Why couldn't you just show how you really felt and stopped running so much, now that he's not interested anymore now you stop playing hard to get, and WON'T leave the guy alone.

And yes I'm speaking from personal experience this has happened twice to me, and these WOMEN become obsessed and feel horrible and everything else that I stopped chasing them, but how do you think I felt when you kept running, I felt HORRIBLE geez.

So many relationships they could have been created, but ruined by pointless games....

Answer 1

Everyone plays games. Men too. Have you ever thought to have a girl chase you instead? It doesn't matter how many answers you get here, women will always find a way to confuse you. I'm a women and I will admit I do it also. You might step back and see just how hard your pushing up on them. If your always up on them, they don't like that. We want to know you like us, but now days we like to make the first moves. I would like to know how and what you do to make these girls feel horrible that they can't be with you. Guys play games, Girls play games. The trick is finding one who like to play the same games as you.
Good luck!!!!

Answer 2

I think it's because a woman will always try to get what she can't have. When you don't show you care, she starts thinking that playing hard to get maybe wasn't such a good idea after all. The thoughts of someone else having the guy is unbearable.

Answer 3

The problem is not unique to women, men do it also, even children.

To be chased is to be wanted. To be wanted is to be desirable. To be desirable is to have better options than you.

You end up being the security that she can have if she doesn't find someone better. (perhaps not overtly thinking this. She thinks "he's nice ,but not really what I want.")

Unintentionally, you become her security, or her door-mat.

As soon as you quit trying,...oops!!! she lost her security. You might not be perfect in her eyes, but you're better than nothing. And if she doesn't have someone chasing her, she may not be desirable. If she's not desirable, she might not get someone for a while.

It's not deliberately using you. But you end up the same.

You're second best when she thinks she can do better, but you're better than othing.

Or it could be a deliberate game........

Answer 4

Ok well I no exactly wat ur talking about cuz my bff is really obsessive when it comes to guyz. Ok well possibly the mite take that u like them for granted and then when u dont like them anymore can be pretty horrible feeling. A lot of time a girl mite not realize tat they like u til after. Other times they mite jus enjoy toyin wit the guy. who knows us girlz are odd.

Answer 5

I can not agree more with you I had a simular thing happen to me. For several year after me and the ex split up I tried to get her to come back (she is the one who left ,no reason just did not love me any more),but as soon as I got envoled with someone she started talking to me more and doing other things of that nature?????? do not understand that.can really make things bad for a person.

Answer 6

they become obsessed because they wanna be with that guy. girls who play hard to get are plain stupid because if a guy likes you and wants to be with you and you like them also then get together. it is pointless to be playing hard to get and then becoming obsessed with the guy because the guy isn't gonna want you anymore they're gonna move on.

Answer 7

The best way to make them stop playing games is to lure them with a diamond ring. Then they'll end up playing YOUR game =D

Answer 8

some women play hard to get because they are putting up a wall cause they dont want you to think they are coming on too strong. just a thought

Answer 9

Just go up and ask, then u wont feel horrible. Or maybe u will, idk