Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

my mom passed in december and my sister is starting to blame herself for her death my mom had a brain tumor and it was slowly killing her but my sister dosent understand it please HELP!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

look if its a brain tumor she had nothing 2 do with it... just comfort her and tell her it wasent her fault and try your best 2 get it in her head

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your loss. Tumors are evil evil things.

No one is to blame. I know you know this. Sometimes, people take it on theirselves as to why someone died, especially if they are very young, the relationship wasn't good, or there was some resentment.

What your sister needs is help. She needs a strong support structure. Your family needs to bind together to provide a positive, loving environment. On top of that, a counselor might be a good idea to help her deal with the death and realize there was nothing she could have done. If the doctors couldn't save your mother, no one could have.


People go through many phases when death occurs. Denile, Anger, Depression, Barganing, and Acceptance are all the stages and you can float between one and the other or skip around for a long time until you finally hit acceptance. Even once you accept it, you could still regress.

Again, I am sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Answer 3

Any sane person would understand that death from a brain tumor is not anyones fault it happens a lot .So I believe there is something more than this behind your sisters reaction she is feeling guilty of something to do with your mum you need to be tactful and talk to her maybe she didnt get to say "I love you mum " or they had a disagreement about something and didnt sort it out before she died .Just a couple of examples what I mean as I said be careful in talking with her make it known that what ever the problem mum loved you both and would understand and have forgiven her any mum would .!!!!

Answer 4

My mom in law passed of the same thing in May. It is absolutely not your fault. Talk to your family Dr. and see if she/he can give you info in reasonable to understand terms about how brain tumors develop. Also, ask your sister if she would like to attend a grief counselling group, with or without you. My husband went, and I'm going to the next round we can find........he was helped immensely. I can't even describe the difference it has made to him. Your doctor or local health info line can find one for you. Just listen to her and be there for her as best you can.....you're already doing the first important thing and that's caring about her. She's lucky to have you.

Answer 5

why don't you just say that to you sister and explain that she couldn't control whether she got it or not. if shes to young to understand that just say that she had to go and there's nothing she did that would have made her sick. (yeah they're the same but a little kid doesn't usually understand brain tumors) and if she doesn't understand either one just try to get her off of it by doing something special for her and calmly talk about it while shes in a good mood.

I'm sorry that she passed. god bless you

Answer 6

Why is your sister blaming herself for your mother's brain tumor? How old is your sister? You have to give some more details for me to help.

Answer 7

All you can really do is be there for her and continually try and reassure her that she had nothing to do with your mother's death. Continually try and tell her what a tumor is and how it kills so many people, and explain to her that because of this, there is no possible way for her to be responsible for your mother's death. Just keep comforting her, being there, and helping her understand this situation. Good luck to you, and God speed.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry about your mom....I don't know how old you or your sister are but I can tell you that you need help to deal with your sisters feelings......and she needs help to get her beyond this. If you can, talk to your dad...or some other adult that you trust...a relative, teacher etc. Feelings like your sister is having are not uncommon when we lose someone close to us but help is available and you should seek it out before the situation becomes worse. Good luck to both of you....

Answer 9

hello sweet girl....
It is very simple but i can be very serious matter 2, u should spend more time with your sister go out with her & make her to understand that we can't blame any1 for death because it is a fact of life we have to leave this world one day & it doesn't matter how, tell her to be brave & real instead of blaming urself pray for her...
I wish u gud luck dear...
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Answer 10

remind your sister that people cannot catch brain tumors from other people, nor cause them to have brain tumors. seek out an adult you trust and try to get your sister some professional help. good luck to you both, sweetie.