Other than jealousy...what goes on in the minds of people when they are completely rude to nice, attractive women who have literally done nothing to them? How do their minds function?
2006-11-18 16:08:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Are you kidding me?? People are rude all the time!! I'm not just talking women, but men as well...I'm not thinking of any one reason...well, ok, I'm actually thinking about a certain subculture, I personally think if you behave nicely, people are meaner, as if they want to get a rise out of you....it's strange...
2006-11-18 16:16:13 · update #1
They are projecting - pure and simple. They have probably suffered rejection or worse from women that makes them all enemies in their minds, especially the attractive ones. A good way to judge a person's character is by how they treat strangers. If they are rude or mean to strangers they generally are people with low self esteem.
2006-11-20 05:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was young, I was completely tongue tied around beautiful women. Just didn't know what to say. They probably thought I was aloof and arrogant, but I was insecure and secret had a crush on them (some of them anyway). I've gotten better over the years.
You might also consider that you remind the persons of someone who did something to them. Attractive people might have been cruel to them once and now they have a distrust of all attractive people.
Additionally, some people don't know they are rude. Or they think that you slighted them somehow. Perhaps it was some innocent thing that you didn't know occurred.
Some people just don't think. I'm voting for that one.
Sometimes there is a major misunderstanding. My mom often times says things that she thinks is totally innocent and I have to tell her constantly that some people look at things differently and are totally private in areas that my mom is totally open about. You just have to respect their privacy, but my Mom often looks at me like I'm crazy. Why would they be upset about that? I don't know. They just are and you should respect it. Misunderstandings can be avoided, but not all of them.
Most of all, it comes down to insecurities. Everyone has them and we all have our buttons that can be pushed to make us act stupidly. I'm pretty good at dealing with people, but even I, in the recent past, have handled things poorly because I was afraid of looking stupid. Of course, it takes two to tango and a misunderstanding is a two way street. Like my mom, what may be a totally innocent comment to you, which if it were not innocent would totally shake your world view, may not be so innocent to someone else. People are hard to deal with, but if you are going to be successful at it, the first place to start looking is at yourself. How does your world view differ from the other person's world view? Which buttons does the other person push in you and how can you avoid reacting negatively when they push those buttons even accidentally? Do you take over the conversation? Are you a threat to them somehow? Are you going to take their job or prestige away or do they perceive you as taking that away or as some kind of threat? Do you do nothing to take their fear of this perceived threat away (perhaps because you don't know that you are doing it)? (Studies show that attractive people get breaks far more than other folks and powerful men want attractive women around, so attractive women do far better career wise than others.)
I don't know what the situation is but a relationship with a person (not just love relationships, but those with coworkers and friends , too) is a two way street. You may have to figure out what his deal is and share some of the blame.
On the other hand, maybe the guy is crazy. I've had those in my past (and present), too, and there isn't anything one can do about it. People, all people, have an irrational side. Some have it more than others.
2006-11-18 16:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Erik B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never have understood why some people are mean to others, and I don't waste any time trying to figure them out. May I suggest that NOT knowing how they think is probably a very good sign for you? By the way, what does a person's attractiveness have to do with their entitlement to courtesy and respect?
2006-11-18 16:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you feel worth a mans car, his house, half of all of his stuff, his kids, and his harley, oh and 150 grand. Women tend to like money, and many of them marry just to get half of the mans stuff while they lay on their butt everyday. I'm sure my best friends dad feels that way right now, because thats what hes going though.
Is any woman really worth 150 grand?
The correct answer is hell no.
2006-11-18 16:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Selfishly
2006-11-18 16:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are rude to me in clothing stores and at walking tracks because I am very small. They have even given me a mean stare. or else make no eye contact. I can't help that I am small.
2006-11-18 17:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are selfish and self absorbed, others are just insecure. But the important thing to remember is that it's nothing to do with you, it's their issue.
2006-11-18 16:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no excuses whatsoever. Being rude to people you know but to be rude to perfect strangers is completely uncalled for.
2006-11-18 16:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with China Doll
2006-11-18 16:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by The Cajun Mason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe those women don't realize that they did something wrong. People don't snap at others for no reason at all, it has to come from somehere.
2006-11-18 16:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋