I just don't know how to let go, i keep trying but one little thing he says or does that gives me hope makes me let him back in as soon as i'm trying to move on.I know i can do better but i don't want to 'cause i still live him and i keep thinking he's not as bad as he could be....
2006-11-18 16:02:06 · 9 answers · asked by serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meant love him and that i don't want to move on.
2006-11-18 16:03:06 · update #1
u answered ur question...u love him...and when u love someone...u dont see the flaws...u see perfection...and although u are influenced by society as to which man is perfect...deep in ur heart u know that ,u care for him that much...and if u have all reason to stay...stay and enjoy his love....but when it get to the point that u just feel pain and hurt all the time...then u have to move on....
2006-11-18 16:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I learned the hard way once a problem always a problem.People very rarely change for the better the just tend to get worse and eventually they will bring you down with them.Or you will be bailing them out of jail or even get hurt. I know I had my share of bad boys, but you will have more in life if you settle for a good one including happiness. I know because I used to date trouble makers, but I married a good guy and he's a great dad and great provider to us..Good luck and best wishes
2006-11-19 00:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by mydesella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for u because all of the time and effort u put into changing him are wasted if u let go. If u love him as u say u would not be trying to change him, therefore u do not know what love really is. I.E. I will settle for this piece of pie cause if I get a different one it may have mold.
2006-11-19 00:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by hotchilipepper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you are not wanting him to be some guy that doesn't exist before you leave him. Most guys are the same, within a spectrum(some more extreme than others). Is it you or is it him?
2006-11-19 00:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nep 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is you need to keep this guy around like a pet, both of you deserve better, undo his leash and let him go
2006-11-19 00:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it will continue to hurt you till you finally move on. you can stay friends with him....just keep that mindset and when he says whatever he says....listen but dont get wrapped up in how you want to be together again.
2006-11-19 00:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by FJ40spencer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will find the answers to your question when you are able to define the word "codependency". If you are looking for the strength to let go, you will find that in God. Good luck!
2006-11-19 00:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Karla 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i knoe its tough but u gotta learn how to let him go............sometimes it becomes very much neccessary but u hv to make ur heart understand that it has to let go of him.............sometimes u just cant help..............keep talking to people...........u will feel better...............
2006-11-19 00:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by screwurattitude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't change someone so don't try
2006-11-19 00:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ice Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋