I just can't understand or get over it...
2006-11-18 16:01:16 · 31 answers · asked by Desert Rose 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I really appreciate all the kind answers and insight from all of you-Happy Holidays!
2006-11-20 03:25:04 · update #1
Perhaps, he just doesn't exist?
2006-11-18 16:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 13⤋
Some things are not God's doing. If God specifically did not want YOU to have children, that would mean that He DID want all of the horrible mothers out there to. I think it's very random who can and can't bare children. There are too many people out there that are wonderful people that would make great parents that are infertile, and far too many drug-addicted parents that neglect and abuse their children. It happens to the best of us, there is no explanation. Blaming yourself or wondering why will not help you. Try looking into fertility clinics, looking into adopting a foster child, or adopting from another country. Looking to your future and doing all you can to make your dreams come true will help you a lot more than just thinking about it. Good luck to you, know that you aren't alone, and God bless you.
PS-
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http://www.inciid.org/article.php?cat=infertility&id=240
2006-11-19 00:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki Lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say exactly why the Lord wouldn't let you have children. Have you actually specifically tried asking Him for children? Maybe you have not because you ask not. If you have asked Him and He still hasn't let you have children it could be that He wants you to fill that role in the life of a child who has a mother but not a good one. Maybe He wants you to adopt a child who is already in this world but needs a home and a loving family to raise him or her. Maybe He knows that you're not ready just yet even if you feel like you are. Maybe there are things that He wants you to do that would be more difficult with a child involved. I don't know you or your situation. These are just some of the possibilities that I can think of to answer your question. But I do know that even in our hardest circumstances, "All things work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose." I've learned that from experience. I hope this helps at least a little.
2006-11-19 00:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by logidzomai_1036 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? Perhaps it is still a possibility Sarah, Abraham's wife was very old when she conceived. Even if it is biologically impossible, all things are still possible with God. Another though is that you may have a child someplace just waiting for you to adopt? Just because you didn't go through the delivery process doesn't mean you couldn't still be a mother. If God was to put a child in you life you might be a better mother then the one that birthed them. There are many women that have given birth that aren't even close to being a mother. Perhaps you could be the real mother of one of those children?
2006-11-19 00:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by happylife22842 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We do not understand the ways of God. But for sure God has given you a lot of ways to have children around you in this world and for you to help guide them and help them grow up. If you can, adopt. If adoption doesn't seem an option, there are big brother/big sister groups, foster care, programs to be a grandmom to kids, I'm sure you could think of many others, you never know you may find your child there. Pray to god to lead you to the way you should go to help you get over the hurt.
2006-11-19 00:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe everything happens for a reason. Can you imagine being pregnant for say 6 months only to find that your baby has no brain function and you must now give natural child birth, only for your new born to take one breath and pass on? I threw that at you just as an example of why this may be happening to you. I think it would be easier not to be able to get pregnant than to get pregnant and something this horrific happen. I know it hurts and you must want children so much, but there is a reason you are not blessed with your own children. There may be a baby some where out there who is in need of the love that only you can provide for him or her. Another child can bless you with just as much love as a child with your own blood and it would be your very own child also. My heart goes out to you for the pain you are in.
2006-11-19 00:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God does not "cause" bad things to happen to good people. We are living in a very imperfect world, ruled by satan. Satan is the cause of bad things. If you personally did not do anything to cause you to lose your ability to have children. Then you are a victim of an unfortunate and sad circumstance. The bible promises us of a time of perfect peace. Matt. 5:4 says "Happy are those who mourn since they will be comforted." There are many comforting scriptures in the bible, that can bring you a true hope of a time when you may possibly have children.
2006-11-19 01:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by yyyddd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can image that must be raelly hard to deal with, and I'm so very sorry to hear this. But unless the good Lord above has told you this and you know it was him without a doubt, then dont give up. If this is something a doctor has told you, well no one is perfect, and it's not in there hands.
Or maybe it was because you are suppose to adopt. Whatever the reason I'm sure he has a good answer just trust him.
2006-11-19 00:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by mimi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gotta love that first poster. She must really get a kick of pouring salt in wounds. What a class act....NOT!
I know it's hard, I know it hurts. I am there too, but on the other end. My former wife couldn't have kids and now, due to my illness, neither can I.
As an atheist, I can't quote chapter and verse of the bible, but I can tell you that many people see God's plans as brilliant, even though we may not see them like that. We may think it is punishment, when in fact it's the best thing that could happen to us.
It tests your faith and it tests your patience. Both of those are in short supply these days. Try to tap into those. Talk to your prayer leader (priest, etc.) and believe in yourself. Believe that you are here for a great purpose and even if that purpose is not bringing a biological child into this world, you will find it...and excel in it.
As an atheist these words are hard to type but...
God bless.
2006-11-19 00:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by John Q. Public 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you want to blame God then do as you wish. However, I think you should consider this a blessing. The last thing this Earth needs is another child. Do you not think God knows this? Instead of spending all your money raising a child you could be traveling and appreciating God’s creation.
2006-11-20 08:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will be able to give you a direct answer, maybe some guesses like:
Perhaps He wants you to adopt.
Perhaps He wants you to serve Him is some way where children would be a burden.
No one really knows why. If you ask Him in sincere prayer He may revel the reason to you or He may never revel it. I am sorry there are no good answers for this question.
2006-11-19 00:12:31 · answer #11 · answered by Tim P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋