My older pregnant sister slit her wrists! my dad is sick! why is my younger sister being so selfish?

Question

My older pregnant sister slit her wrists! my dad is sick! why is my sister being so selfish?
My sister's husband died 2 months ago. She was heart broken. And she was 4 months pregnant. It was a sudden depressing moment in our whole families’ lives. 1 month later was the funeral. My older sister never showed up. We later learned she was at the hospital, she attempted suicide. She had slit her wrists! And she was pregnant! All of this was not good for our dad. My dad had had a heart attack last year and all this stress was not good for him. Well now my older sister is in a mental institution because she is not emotionally stable. Our family fears for her safety and the babies. My other younger sister is taking this opportunity to do whatever she wants. She is 15 and drinks alcohol. Parties. Never tells our parents where she is. I feel like my younger sister is being selfish and taking advantage of the situation. What can I do?

Yes, I have asked this question 3 times today because I want as many opinions as possible. My family is falling apart and I don't appreiciate your critsizim. Out of 20 replies only about 7 of them really help me out. So inseat of moderating my post why don't you help me out?

oh and rikibum or whatever your name is. I change my mind, I don't care what you think. your one annoying person in a world of people.

Answer 1

well your older sister needs help , can't probrably deal with all the drama, she's probrably seriously deppressed and need of help, she needs to be looked after , till she can deal with lifem i don't think she should be alone. now for your younger sister she needs to grow up and try to help instead of partying if she really cares what happens in the family, all i know that you should pray to god to help you cuz i think your by yourself and you need some help to get your family threw your crisis, god bless you and good luck.

Answer 2

She is not selfish. She is screaming for attention herself. There are a lot of heavy heavy problems going on, and it seems that your younger sister just can't deal with what is happening in the family, so she is escaping.

It sounds like the whole family could benefit by some professional family counseling to deal with everything that has been happening. Some people are stronger than others, and some people handle stress in different ways. If your 15 year old sister is learning to drown her sorrows in a bottle she is setting herself up for a bad future. Let's face it, when you are loaded you cannot make good decisions about anything. It is up to your parents to be the parents and do something about her situation.

Answer 3

Pray! And take lots of B vitamins!
Stress depletes your B vitamins (that is why they are in "stress formula" vitamins.) A symptom of B vitamin deficiency is depression. Get a B vitamin megadose vitamin and give it to everyone involved every day! You will be amazed how much better you will feel.
I don't know, but it sounds like your little sister is just trying to deal with this by playing like it isn't happening and it takes a lot of alcohol and "happy" activity to fake herself out, underneath it all she's hurting too. Give her some vitamins.
Your dad is probably in better care than he was before he had his heart attack, so don't worry, it won't change anything anyway.
Your older sister may feel better after her child is born. She is grieving deeply. It is made worse by the need of pregnant women to have the baby's father there to hold her and tell her she's still pretty and that he loves for being the mother of his child. Also she's looking at being a single mom and that is not the way it was supposed to be for her. You didn't say but it sounds like your brother-in-law's death was sudden. That adds to the shock and grief too. Give her some B vitamins.
And don't forget to pray, have faith. Love one another.

Answer 4

First, I'm sorry that you are going through all this h***. But, I don't understand something, where's your mum in all this? Who is watching out for the babies while your sister is in the institution? What is the prognosis for your sisters' recovery?

I don't think that your younger sister is taking advantage of anything, it's just her way of dealing with all the c*** that's happened recently and she needs to get into some type of therapy in order to find a better way to deal with it all.

Perhaps the doctors at the institution or a family doctor could recommend a family counselor for all of you to go to. It sounds like you (your family) needs this desperately so please don't waste any time in getting the help you all need. In the meantime, just keep trying to be strong for your family, but don't let it take over your life, you might not survive it. Please get help soon, all of you. Bless you.

Answer 5

If she has a history of attention getting behavior or needs to be the one who has the biggest baddest crisis then perhaps she is being just selfish. But she may be selfish the way a starving man thinks only of something to eat. She is asking for help the only way, in her emotionally battered condition, she thought she could. Children old enough to make their own decisions can't be ruled by the instability of a parent. Why is it that Dad's condition is the main standard for the acceptability of anybody else's behavior? There are plenty of people hurting here, and your younger sister is one of them. It seems that being in crisis is the only way to get some love and attention in your family.

Answer 6

first of all you should have reread that before you posted it, you have the sisters mixed up at several points and its heard to follow.

the younger sister sees how the other one got attention buy doing dumb things. you have to tell your dad to control her, contrary to popular belief you can stop a teenager from doing those things.

as for the pregnant one she needs to grow up, shes selfish too. if you think the end of the world is here bc one person died you need to wake up and realize whos left not to mention she could have killed her child THE ONLY LINK TO HER HUSBAND SHE HAS.

Answer 7

I am really sorry to hear this. I think that if you have any influence on your sister, you should talk to her. Let her know she is loved. It sound like she has some issues, along with the fact that she may want some attention. I think the entire family needs some counseling.

Answer 8

Your family needs counseling immediately. Talk to someone at the hospital where your older sister is. Your younger sister is acting out because she is full of grief and fear. She needs help. You all do.

Answer 9

shes not being selfish it her way with dealing with it all she needs help right now she needs you guys even though she may now show it. The best way to make it better is to try counciling it helps you all should go its nothing to be ashamed of or anything.

Answer 10

MAYBE SHE'S NOT TAKING "ADVANTAGE" OF THE SITUATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MAYBE SHE IS HAVEING PROBLEMS DEALING WITH HER BROTHER-IN-LAWS DEATH, HER SISTERS ATTEMPTED SUICIDE AND HER FATHERS HEARTATTACK!!!!!!!!!! DID YOU EVER THINK OF THAT!? MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO HER ABOUT THESE THINGS AND TRY AND BE THERE FOR HER, INSTEAD OF RAGGING ON HER. YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT IS AFFECTED BY YOUR FAMILIES PROBLEMS! IT'S TOOOOO BAD THAT YOUR SISTER'S HAS TO DEAL WITH THIS ALL ALONE.