how do i tell myfriend that she hits her kids 2 heard it needs 2 stop ? help?

Question

no childern should get hit like that ! were is the love

Answer 1

Tell her straight up that it is wrong. All that hitting teaches a child is that violence is acceptable behaviour.

Answer 2

Tell your friend a story you heard about a mother or father what ever you prefer that did not realize how hard they were hitting thier child till there was and accident when they hit the child and insert some story about the child being hurt badly , maybe fell against something what ever, if that doesnt work this person may be your friend but the children are our future, YOU MUST take measures to protect the children but legally of course.

Answer 3

Just tell her!If you have to make something up like you over heard someone say that they were going to report her than do it!!You would be amazed how many people are in the "system"There's caseworkers,foster parents casa workers etc.They are every where!I know cause I am one!Just make her think that they are watching her!You're right no kid should be hit"like that" from the way you put it,it sounds like she basically beats them!!If someone was to report her it could be a long time before she gets her kids back!!!

Answer 4

Tell her hiting solves nothing. What will she do when the children get bigger? Are they going to hit her back?

Suggest she use positive reinforcement. Tell the children when they are being good and give them praise for doing so.

Time outs work better and making sure she has clearly defined rules for the children't behaviour and follows through with discipline.....which should be a time out not a spanking.

Answer 5

WOW, WOW, WOW.... that's all i can say.

It needs to stop?? NO YOU NEED TO STOP..... BEING HER FRIEND. RIGHT NOW.

I say this with great love and passion.... YOU are condoning the behavior by being her friend.

you must be strong (and this will be hard but it is EVER so necessary) and tell her that you can't be her friend. Say "listen, I really don't view parenting the way you do and it really bothers me the way you discipline your children. It's completely harsh and violence causes children to have GREAT distress, feel insecure, unloved, ashamed, lack self confidence, grow up to be abusers themselves, they have trouble in school, relationships and it's all around completely desctrcutive and I just can't be around it anymore". I hope you get help".

And move on and NEVER look back. Hopefully, this will send one of the most powerful messages she's ever received.

If you continue to be her friend, you are - read carefully - ACCEPTING THE BEHAVIOR.

when you accept bad behavior, bad behavior continues.

Once you have had this conversation with your friend,,, TOMORROW, and you happen to witness it again, from a distance, you call child protective services. It's THAT simple.

We as a society are DONE tolerate this kind of violence. It perpetuates itself into destructive bahavior that AFFECTS US ALL. ALL OF US including you. So be strong, and say that message. You will have done a great thing. believe me, she will go to sleep (after she's taken on her little defensive attitude) and she will lay awake realizing that something is grossly wrong with her and hopefully she'll get help.

Parents who are agressive (I don't care what ANYONE says) are a direct result of lack of coping skills, lack of ability to communicate properly and effectively with their children AND people in general so they feel bad about themselves as a result and take it out on their kids. It's a vicious cycle that all of these types of parents will make excuses for. but there is NO excuse. Help is all around.

Answer 6

You need to just sit down and tell her that you think that her punishments are too extreme and maybe she needs to evaluate her punishment methods. Tell her you respect the fact that she has a hard job parenting, but you are truly conserned that she is being too rough with the children. If this does not work and she continues, you may need to get protective services involved and they will help her.

Answer 7

well if you have witnessed her hitting her children, one, straight up tell her to stop. if she doesn't, then call the cops. it's as easy as that. noone should beat their children. now it's different if it's just a smack on the hand, that's not beating, but if she's litterally beating these kids, you need to do something not just say something.

Answer 8

Question what is too hard to you. I smaked my daughter on her hand and she screamed like I took out the frying pan. Sometimes ids put on a show. Now if it is abuse you need to report it.

Answer 9

well if you really care about those kids welfare tell her straight out cuz no kid should get beat no matter what they do , she has to realize that kids will be kids, now if she can.t handle them she needs to look at other options other than beating them, if all fails report her , remember it's not about her it's about the kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

You should hit her really hard and see if she likes it. If she tells you to stop then tell her then stop whacking your kids, ***.