Have you considered how many times this question has been asked, and could tell the asker was obviously underage? What state has our nation come to when we are not educating our children properly about sex? Apparently the scare tactics of just the past few DECADES has not done anything but led them to do the same things, but ask ignorant, paranoid questions. Do you believe we need a more honest, open dialogue about sex with our children? Its obvious that they are going to do what they are going to do ... I did, everyone I know did. And we were all mislead by the propaganda and fear campaign driven against underage sex when we were in school. Why don't we just be straight with our kids about it, educate more on a medical and honest level? Seems to me that this is the most effective method, since me and all my friends eventually went to the books and learned that way. And are smarter, safer and healthier for it. What do you think?
2006-11-18 15:40:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Some of you missed my point, they know the dangers of sex, they understand and are generally careful, they've been fed "THE DANGERS OF SEX" forever now, but they still ask dumb questions about the other aspects. The actual act of reproduction, how genitals work and what they do and dont do, how reproductive organs actually work with real-life statistics and the such. Don't try to scare them from sex because it isn't going to work, educate them about how it does work and they will be careful about pregnancy. Just be straight forward with them people. Your little girl is going to put it in her mouth, her butt and everywhere else she wants it, just be honest about how it works and what gets you pregnant.
2006-11-18 20:43:32 · update #1
Yes oh YES!!!
2006-11-18 16:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ABSOLUTELY believe we need an open honest dialouge with children about sex. I also believe that we do not give teenagers enough credit about making independent decisions... I think we hammer this "You're too young" mentality into them from the beginning and then they automatically want to rebel against it. I think if we educate them at every age (age appropriately of course) then when the time comes they won't be so confused... Also, if we could just give up the BS dogma we all seem to carry around it would really help out- I think a lot of parents are still hung up on the whole don't have sex before marriage, sex is dirty, teen pregnancy is a sin thing because that's how they were raised and therefore are intimidated about speaking with their children openly about sex.
Personally, I had a book when I was little that explained the process in a very honest but appropriate way and I never had any questions or issues when it came to sex and when "the right time" to have sex would be for me... In fact I ended up waiting until I was 20 to become sexually active (and believe you me it wasn't for a lack of opportunity!).
2006-11-18 15:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by annathespian 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they are educating kids earlier in school even compared to when I was in junior high and high school. I am only 25. I like that the education is starting earlier, but I don't think they are teaching the right education. Sure it is good to teach abstinance, but most kids now aren't going to abstain from sex until marriage, that has been happening for a long time now. I didn't either, but I knew enough that I was on birth control, we used condoms as well for a while and had already been together for a year first and had full physicals before anything happened. I married this man.
I think in addition to abstinance they need to be teaching respect of sex as well, birth control, condoms and I don't care if it is a grade 6 class give them out, give out boxes of them, they are having sex already and need them anyway.
So many parents aren't talking about it at home, my parents never had "the talk" with me or my sister. My sister had sex for the first time just after she turned 15, partly because my father had just passed away and she was rebelling badly, partly because she just made a bad decision, but she had condoms and shortly after started on birth control. Neither of us wound up a pregnant teen or a too young mother. I have a child, but my son was born when I was 23 and married.
It actually makes me really disapointed and mad when I see these little too young teens walking around with a baby in a stroller and the baby is theirs. Even worse they are smoking too, but that is another issue for another day.
Something has to be done. I hear on here especially people too young asking about having sex and babies, a 13 year old the other day asked if sperm from a 13 year old could make a baby. It scares me to death when I hear this. My son is only 2 now, but my husband and I plan to be totally open with him and make sure that he feels comfortable asking us anything. There needs to be WAY more people doing this. It is not the school's sole responsibility.
2006-11-18 16:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So it can happen, kids can maintain abstanance until they are older. I did, but I tell you it wasn't b/c I might get and std, aids or get pregnant. It was b/c my parents knew how to discipline and did it effectively. And because my parents cared enough to know where I was. I was not just "out" on friday nights w/ nothing to do. If I was going to be out, my parents knew, I also knew they were not above checking up on me, so if I said I was going to be somewhere, I better be there. I also was not allowed to be somewhere w/ a group of coeds not supervised and they checked on this beforehand as well. Not to mention that I had an older brother who, between he and my friends I had no sense of secrecy or privacy. However, my sister in laws little sister was out doing these things and her mother didn't turn a blind eye. Seh took her to the docor and got her on birth control. Lets face it people. If you don't care where you child is @ least do something to help them prevent it. Kids get bored and what is the easiets, cheapest form of entertainment when left alone w. a memberof the oposite sex SEX
2006-11-18 16:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by tera_duke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we should tell them everything they need to know about sex, relationships and all that goes with it.
They should be taught that unprotected sex can change your plans for life forever. 1) Pregnancy brings an unwanted, innocent child that will be denied a complete family; 2) child support payments from the father and/or mother for 18 to 24 years; 3) sexually transmitted diseases that can last for a lifetime, like herpes and warts; 4) death by aids; and so many more things that can inhibit one to set goals for the future.
I, too, am surprised at some of the questions these young people ask on here; but I think they are very young, like maybe 12 to 15.
2006-11-18 16:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. Its scary reading these questions and thinking about the obvious lack of sex education or inadequacy of it.
Also, kids always seem scared to talk to parents about it. Who do they have to trust and talk to about these issues? I really feel for them.
It does seem like there needs to be better sex education for children, especially with all of the std's that are around, children need to be educated about the dangers. To take this arguement to the extreme one could say its almost child abuse to not educate these children about the dangers. But that is the extreme end of the arguement though.
2006-11-18 16:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's true. As for me and my house we teach the truth of the Bible. Sex is a wonderful gift that God gives to a man and his WIFE. As of now our children are still young but we will not lie to them. And we will continue to let them know that they can come to use with any questions at any time, without fear. That way they don't feel that they have to ask there friends..maybe getting wrong advice. Even if we spend all day in the library, the truth is best.
2006-11-18 15:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Beauty Blessed 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I asked pretty much the same question a few days ago.
Some of the answers were pretty spot on.
The whole emphasis on abstinence versus reality seems to be the problem.
2006-11-18 15:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by Gillian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you my sister who is 18 just got pregnant because she thought that if she didnt take the last week of her pills she would be ok and she wouldnt get her period. big mistake. i also had a bf in high school who asked me if i could get pregnant from giving him oral sex. hello - not unless mommys baby really is in her tummy
2006-11-18 18:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by curious_blue_eyed_kitten 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awww, you are just mad because no girl will ever show you her cooter. So sad, but maybe you can pay Ming-Lee down the street 30 dolla for sucky sucky.
Oh, by the by, you're retarded and I think you should get an STD from a bullfrog.
2006-11-18 17:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by das_nigga 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
any1 who believes in abstinence has never been 16
so just get over it
people r idiots and will never understand that they need to talk to their kids about EVERYTHING
2006-11-18 15:48:52 · answer #11 · answered by popsicle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋