why the f in this world fat girls have bf and i dont????

Question

i have seen cute guys with fat girls. guys look at me but they dont talk to me so much only ugly guys talk to me and propose and i know that im not ugly i can get handsome guy. so my question is that do guys like only outgoing girls why not shy girls???????????????
and yea im so shy :(

Answer 1

Judging by your previous questions, you seem to be obsessed with fat today.

Chill! It takes all kinds to make this world.

Fat girls deserve to be just as happy as skinny girls. Fat girls that get cute guys must have so much extra going for them to achieve this. They probably have the personalities of saints (or devils, wink/wink).

Stop trying so hard. Most guys can smell desperation from a mile away, and will run in the opposite direction as fast as they can.

Answer 2

Many guys see shy girls as stuck up. They don't consider that it's harder for some girls to be outgoing than others. All they notice is that a shy girl doesn't flirt with them, laugh at their jokes, start conversations with them, etc... and automatically think "snob" or "cold" or something else unflattering, that isn't true at all. At young ages (before 25 or so), most guys aren't really brave enough to approach the girls that don't put themselves out there. If a girl is more reserved, they just don't have the courage to talk to her long enough to break through her shell. And many times they want the easy girls. Not meaning that the girl will automatically sleep with them, but they just don't have to put a lot of effort into talking to her, getting her to open up, and find out what's under the surface. Many of the "fat girls" you see with the "cute guys" probably don't mind making the first move with the guys. So they see a girl who is confident and secure, and know that they don't have to do as much to keep her happy and having fun.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. As you get older, there will be plenty of men (the key word being MEN here) who won't be put off by your attitude. They will see it as a challenge to get past that shyness, and will like having to try a bit harder to get things started. As guys mature, they start to loose interest in the easy conquest, and start to think about finding the right woman. So the shy, attractive woman is much more appealing than the forward girl who flirts with every guy in the place. When the right one comes along, he'll respect and like you for who you are, and you'll be glad that you didn't run around being a bimbo just to impress a few guys.

Answer 3

The truth is, any girl can get a guy... for a night.

Maybe all the guys you are interested in and seeing going around with "fat girls" are less shallow than you.

If you are looking for someone of quality, who cares about you for you, you have to be of quality, and give them something to care about.

You don't have to be outgoing, shy people find the loves of their lives too. You don't have to pretend to be something you're not.

It seems to me that your negative perspective could be off putting for most guys. Unless your Naomi Cambell, you can't be a miserable, angry, name calling witch and still land a decent guy. And even if you are Naomi Cambell, it will probably end up in an ugly lawsuit anyway ;)

What do guys want? I dont know but in my experience most of them will at least RESPECT smart woman who doesnt dumb herself down, can take care of herself, isnt an emotional wreck, takes good care of herself, lets the guy go after her (never call or chase after a guy, thats their job), acts and speaks like a lady (that means no **ahem** name calling), and doesnt put out.

Thats what you want, respect. A guy cant love you, or even be interested in you if he cant respect you. If you can be the good charming girl you know you can be, you won't be alone for long. In fact, you dont have to be nice to just guys, try being nice to more girls (fat or not). Most people meet their spouses through friends. The more friends you have, the more options you have.

And thats my $0.02

Answer 4

Big hugs first...It is tough being shy, and sometimes people mistake that shyness for being stuck up. Personally I think shy girls are really cute, and don't you worry, there is a guy out there looking for you....and probably a few with their eyes on you already.

Often times heavy girls are really personable and friendly, and that helps I think.

Try getting involved with some activities to be around more people, and force yourself to take small steps to being more social. Try to treat others like you want to be treated, and you will find someone. Don't be in any rush or think you are weird, because you are not. You're probably very kind, sweet, emotional, and a lovely person...you just need to work on bringing that out so others see it.


sorry this doesn't make more sense...really tired!

Love will find you...good things are coming your way....i just know they are!!

Answer 5

Why does it matter if the girl is fat or ugly and **** like that. As long as the guy and girl is happy then there is no problem. I think you probably cant find a boyfriend because you my friend sound like a whiney superficial shallow *****. Just wait it out and mr.right will eventually come your way. (Hopefully) But yeah you need to try to lighten up and stop thinking so negitivly about youtrself. Guys love a girl that is confident and isnt scared to show it . Good luck with your boy hunting

Answer 6

Have you ever considered your attitude? Sure men like a hot girl for a night, but for a girlfriend they don't want someone who is vain and constantly b****ing at them. Also, some guys like fat girls. I have never met a man who likes girls with their ribs poking out. When asked what type of body type they prefer, they responded by saying that they like an average body about a size 10. Also, I can't comprehend why women are constantly stabbing each other in the back and putting each other down. Low self esteem perhaps?

Answer 7

it must be your attitude do you have confidence
maybe let yourself and become outgoing and less shy because if u want a man go out an get one don't wait for him to come to u .

i use to be shy and unconfident but that all changed once i became 19 yrs Old in 1994 i decided to ask guys out instead of waiting on dudes

i asked my husband out back in 1997 i actually gave him my number and he called and he said that if i never would of approached him he would have missed out.. He said he thought if he asked for my number that i would diss him .. but i didn't and i found my homey , lover , and friend in my hubby of 7 years . So overcome that shyness and get out there but just act like a classy lady and if u see a guy u like then its not a sin to ask for a number u aren't going to go to hell for being the aggressor to get what u want .

Answer 8

Honey you are looking at things all wrong you dont chase guys they come to you. Dont rush things. And why talk about fat girls and such hey everyone needs love remember. Change your attitude about things and things may happen for the best

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Okay don't call them fat who gave you the right to draw that VERY fine line between fat and skinny it's because boys think that if your shy when you don't know them then you're gonna be shy in the bedroom!!And by the way you don't have to cuss or even imitate it!! Say flip!