youre in my shoes. there was this girl you were reallly really tight with, and you wre close to asking her out. but then she hooked up with this other guy, and you somehow managed to stay even tighter with her. now shes broken up with the other guy after 4 motnhs. what do you do now? 1. do yu ask her out right away (wudnt want to do that, cus itll look like i was waiting for them to breakup). 2. dont give her the chance (cus remember, its like beign runner up to this girl, and she seriosuly broke my heart back then). 3. or just wait awhile for everything to blow over, and she is worth the wait i guess. cus ive never fallen for a girl this bad. ionoo what to do. anyone help me out?? thankss =)
2006-11-18 15:32:32 · 14 answers · asked by some jersey kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one. I don't think that you should give her the time of day because she didn't give you the time of day. Like you said, you don't want to jump in and ask her out because then your sounding and looking all desperate like you were all waiting for her. Make her want you and make her want to ask you out. Turn the tables onto her and make her chase you now. Throw the ball into her court and let her show you that she wants to be with you. Because you don't want to be ending up waisting your time. Another thing, it sounds like you 2 are pretty good friends. I think that's the worst thing that could happen. Because hooking up with a friend is bad news, it ruins everything.
2006-11-18 15:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by I love my kids! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't ask her out right away. They just broke up and she has confided in you as a friend in the past and if you approach her like that while she is vulnerable either she will feel your taking advantage of her or she will hook up with you on "the rebound".
I would suggest to just prove to her that you are a genuine friend and be there for her, give her time to move on.
All you can do is when the time is right is to explain to her your true feelings for her. Tell her that you really value the friendship that the two of you have together but you have these feelings for her that you have to confess but tell her you are afraid to ruin the friendship. Tell her that even though you see her in this light that you would be ok with being friends still but would love the chance to show her the way she truly deserves to be treated when the time is right.
I n the meanti.me she just needs a friend bro, don't rush anything and if she eventually feels the same for you it will be long lasting because you have the foundation of trust and friendship to build on. If she doesn't feel the same for you then you have a great friend for life.
2006-11-18 15:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by play_at_y0_own_risk_4o8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never asked her out in the first place, you can't be mad at her for breaking your heart. For all she knows, you don't even like her at all. Right now just work on cheering her up and helping her with her recent breakup, then after a week or two, I'm sure you'll find an opportunity to ask her out. Don't wait too long though, it would suck to miss your chance again!
2006-11-18 15:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by myyahooanswersaccount1184 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best long term relationships starts were the guy & girl are best friends... be patient and she will see and end up realizing that they love of her life is in front of her... dont think of it as being runner up... think about it as saving the best for last... but at the same time tell her all the compliments that you want to tell her... make her feel good about being around you and talking to you...
nothing makes a girl more happy about things as telling her that she is beautiful!
2006-11-18 15:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to say, 3. wait but, she may not have a clue how you feel. Do you have any hint at all that she may feel the same? It's getting close to the holidays, once there was this guy that I kind of liked, and one year, wasn't sure if he felt the same, he called and asked me to meet him, he had a very sweet gift for me (in his jacket, wrapped) and it was so sweet and romantic that he was he was so unsure of him self, but it was a winter wonderland, and it was sooo romantic, I'll never forget it.
2006-11-18 15:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is not any NO NO!!!! Ten circumstances over and that i do not care how a lot he's paying you!!! NO!!! initially , it really is your cousin?? ewwww. For the excuses meant, there are countless different fish interior the sea for him to get what he desires. no longer you. Out of courtesy, grant to attempt to detect a pal to help him yet you'll stay to be apologetic about it in case you do it!! accepted reason starts with....properly I form of married my cousin. ewwww. imagine back. you're puzzled probably through a monetary grant?? No volume of money to me is worth having to inform someone I married my cousin.
2016-10-16 09:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by forker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 wait
2006-11-18 15:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for everything to blow over. You don't want to be her go to guy! Trust me all of us have a go to guy and if you really are in to her like that then wait. Like you said she is worth it.
2006-11-18 15:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by kittykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dated before than the rule goes that the one who broke it is the one who needs to restart it. but what has changed??? think about keeping her as "just a friend" cause it sounds like she did not treat you fairly in the past.
2006-11-18 15:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by scornedgypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well quite honestly I don't know how you feel about this girl but I would have to say if you like her as much as you say you do I would try to get with her... boy its weird typing this in my point of view...
2006-11-18 15:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Heather L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋