k well first of all im 13 and my mom wont even let me sleepver, she says the im to young, irresponisble, and i dont ahve good frineds. i have to tell her about every friend that i have, i cant have any guy friends (im a girl). she always picks at all the bad stuff. for expample she always calls me stupid when i get like 2 mistakes in a test, and wehn i get perfect, she just says good or y didnt u get a bonus. im so sick of it. and she doesnt even notice that im hurt. my dad understands, but he doesnt ever say no to my mom. and i tried to talk to her but she just started sayin that shes not goin to change her mind. she wont let me do anything, highlight my hair, get a nice haircut, get my ears periced, spend my own money, get a cell phone. nothing. im so tired of it. what should i do? ingore it?
2006-11-18 15:19:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mom is looking out for you. You should not be allowed to do what ever you want. Do you see the news at all these days. There are a Lot of things going on, even with people you trust and you think they would never do some of the terrible things that they do. No one else will care for you and love you as much as your parents. You may not see it now, but when you get older you will appreciate that you had parents who looked out for your best interest. You are at the age were most children don't like much of what the parents say or do. With that said I do not think it is right for you mother to call you stupid. Try to talk to your mom about the name calling. Tell her how it makes you feel.
2006-11-18 16:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by quietgirla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In five years you will be 18 years old. At that age you can move away from home and spend the next 50-60 years doing whatever you want and your mom won't be able to do a darn thing about it. I know that 5 years sounds like a long time but when you get to 50 years old it will feel like an eternity ago, believe me, I know. Hang in there, you have plenty of time to do your own thing after you leave the influence of your mother.
2006-11-18 15:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by BP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl, she is just trying to protect you, like all good mothers do. Maybe she might be a little bit stricked but trust me when I say this. It is for your own good. You might not believe me now but when you get to my age (24) you will understand. I made many mistakes when I was younger because I had to much freedom. But it really does sound to me like she doesn't want you to grow up. Are you the youngest? She does love you a lot. She is not doing this to me horrible but to look out for you. You have plenty of time to dye your hair and have sleepovers and get a cell. Maybe you should try and show her that you are turning into a young lady now and are becoming more responsible. I understand you don't worry, she will get better with time. I wish you Luck and I hope all works out well for you.
2006-11-18 15:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that she's :
1. very protective of you...A GOOD THING. do you not see that in this day and age, parents have to be real careful about who's given authority over you. how well does she know the parents of the girls you want to sleep over with?? what about other visitors of that household?? can you see her dilemma??
2. may be a bit critical and fault-finding, and not focusing enough on the good. you must forgive her. you must be forbearing. in other words, you already know how she's most likely to react to you about grades and things so don't sweat it.
The most important thing is to show your mother (and father) the respect and honor that you should. Watch your attitude. Be easy to please and get along with. Don't whine and complain. You make the best out of any and all situations. The sooner you can do this, the sooner you'll see a difference in your mother's attitude toward you.
2006-11-18 15:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by fruitypebbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds way over strict. Ugh...I have a mother like that. Just not on that level. Try showing her slowley that you can fend for yourself. Slowley. Or else she'll figure it out and put a stop to it. And never suck up then she'll expet you to be like that all the time.
So yeah....try thinking about that a little bit.
2006-11-18 19:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kayla [(Adam)] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is in charge of you and she may be strict, but she is doing the best she can. give her time and maybe she will come around, prove to her you are growing up and maturing and she will give you more choices to do what you want.
2006-11-18 15:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋