is my mom just plain horrible?

Question

k well first of all im 13 and my mom wont even let me sleepver, she says the im to young, irresponisble, and i dont ahve good frineds. i have to tell her about every friend that i have, i cant have any guy friends (im a girl). she always picks at all the bad stuff. for expample she always calls me stupid when i get like 2 mistakes in a test, and wehn i get perfect, she just says good or y didnt u get a bonus. im so sick of it. and she doesnt even notice that im hurt. my dad understands, but he doesnt ever say no to my mom. and i tried to talk to her but she just started sayin that shes not goin to change her mind. she wont let me do anything, highlight my hair, get a nice haircut, get my ears periced, spend my own money, get a cell phone. nothing. im so tired of it. what should i do? ingore it?

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Answer 1

i'm 14 now and i'm studying abroad, so i don't live with my fam, nor do with my mom. and i miss her so much , u know, how did she always sweat the smallest stuffs, i think your mom is a little overprotective, but that means she LOVES u and doesn't want u to get hurt.. we teens like to do whatever we want without thinking about the consequences.. just be a good girl and u know someday that your mom is right...
Good luck!

Answer 2

Reality check here,,, you are 13. You will survive without a cell phone. Thou if it were me you would have one with restrictions so you could contact your parents if/when needed. Adult supervised sleepovers with your girlfriends are understandable but not super necessary. That being said, have you brought your girlfriends to your home so your mom and dad can meet them? Understanding you do have peer pressure, a hair cut and or/ highlights (REASONABLE!) is a goal for you to work toward. Same with ear piercing.

That aside,,, If you are getting perfect or nearly perfect scores in your classes You SHOULD be congratulated and encouraged!! School is a J.O.B. and you are earning top dollars!! It appears your Mom just doesn’t know how to nurture/encourage you. (not all adults know how to do this, cause THEIR parents never nurtured/encouraged them,,, Understand??) When you hear “your irresponsible” do you ask, “what specifically is it I do that makes you say that”? When she answers you,, you then know what things you have to work on improving. You mentioned “spend my own money”,, What are you wanting to spend your money on??

I say again, reality check,,,,13. Your Mom and Dad do want what is best for you and they are proud of your good grades etc. They just aren’t familiar with “positive, forward” encouragement/reinforcement. As has been pointed out,, you do have internet access to ask your question(s) so obviously your Mom is not a ogre. As for not noticing when you feel hurt,,, have you ever said “those words hurt me, because I did score very well on that test”(or whatever it is?) Parents are not complete mind readers all the time. Last 2 things,, #1 you are and will be known by how you present yourself,, even here asking a question, so learn to use spell check, or better yet learn how to spell. #2 In less than ½ the years you are right now you will be 19 years old and life will be completely different.

Answer 3

One day you will understand that she's just doing what she feels is best for you and your safety. Your Mom loves you and is protecting you...you are only 13 ...enjoy being 13. Adult responsibilities will come soon enough and then you'll wish you were a kid again! In the meantime, be sure to give your Mom every reason to trust you...be more responsible at home and at school. Maybe you should rethink some of your friends...if your Mom felt that you had good friends she'd probably let you sleepover. Take some responsibility for this and change what you can for the better.

Answer 4

Don't expect everybody to say Oh , Poor Baby!
We've all been there.
Your on the computer blabbing your personal life to the world....
sounds like freedom to me.
By the way at 13 you should be able to spell...Do you have spell check on that computer your Mom bought you??
It's a teens job to complain about their parents.
And the parents job to keep a check on you.
Ever stop and think about them...they are probably doing the best they know how. Bet your Grandma was just as tough on your Mom. Ask her....talk with her...get some info.
Couldn't hurt to know more than you do now.
You are the next generations Mother.

Answer 5

No i don't think she's horrible, maybe over protective (friends) and she possible doesn't know how to show you her feelings, don;t worry it's okay, my mom didn't either, and still today it's okay i know she cares. and as far as not letting you have certain things, she could possible be the type that doesn't believe in following the trends. As far as calling you names it's not right, maybe next time she calls you a name remind her where you came from (product of environment) Hopfully she will correct the error of her ways, STAY STRONG BABY GIRL
BEST OF BLESSING

Answer 6

As a mom of a 13 uear old, it is not appropriate for her to be calling you names, does she not understand that it is bad for your self esteem? Your mom sounds like she has control issues with not only you but with your father as well, and if he knows it is not fair he needs to learn to stand up to her for your sake. I think that you need to prove to her that you are not this horrible person and that you are smart and your friends are not all bad kids, let her get to know them and maybe introduce her to their parents. As for the dating thing, I kinda agree with her on that one, you still have a lifetime ahead of you to date and meet boys but right now it is a good time for you to concentrate on your education and finding yourself this is a rough time for you age wise you are going through alot of different changes. I don't want to cross the bounderies here but maybe if you can talk to your school counseler about the way you feel and what is going on with your mom, maybe they can help your mom understand you better, I am sure mom just wants to make sure you get a good education and grow up to be something important in life, but she needs to stop the name calling and see the good in her daughter. Good Luck

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Your mom should not be calling you stupid and she should listen to what you have to say. As for you having a sleepover, I don't know what kinds of friends you have so I can't comment but talk to your school councelor, see what they have to say about that.

Answer 9

no your mom is not horrible. shes just trying to keep you from doing somthing stupid that gets you hurt or thrown in jail. its a parent thing. im 18 and my parents still do things like that. personaly its stupid but i can see her side too.

Answer 10

don't worry, mom's are like that. when you get older maybe you can start doing things on your own with out her consent but your dad's consent and then it'll force your dad to vouch for you and then your mom could start seeing you rebelling and soon she'll find out that she can't do anything about it and she'll just have to deal with your independence.