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Holly has dated Pete for 1 year and went off to college with him, with the intentions of getting a degree and then getting married. Then, with no asking her opinion, Pete decided he is going to join the Navy. Their relationship was pretty much one-sided, with Holly always being taken for granted. So she decided to break up with Pete and pursue an attraction that was lingering for the past 2 years with Nate. In everyones eyes, Holly and Nate are the perfect match. Pete was excepting of the break-up, stating that is what he wanted., until he found out Holly was seeing Nate. Then Pete begs Holly back and she goes. Then she decides to break up again, but only lasts one day and goes begging back to Pete. Nate, in the meantime, is sitting back and going to wait for Pete to go off to the Navy, hoping to get back with Holly. BUT, Holly thinks she should stay with Pete and wait 6 years for him to return. She has abandonded her family, for we are not in favor of this. Help!

2006-11-18 14:36:01 · 13 answers · asked by babs54448 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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i completly supposrt why you are not in favor of this, and even though others have said that it's up to your daughter to decide IT ISN"T. that's you family and you should be able to keep it safe and happy. I think that Holly should definatly dump Pete forever and go back with Nate who would probably provide her with a better life. I don't see why your daughter is still attracted to Pete, he decided to go to the Navy without discussing that with Holly, and they were planning to get married too? wow great relationship, I would dump that guy the second he would announce that he is going to the Navy...... AND!!!! he might die and not come back........ so much happens in 6 years... she should move on with her life.... Pete is definatly not her destiny, and she shouldn't waste her time and life on this jerk that takes her for granted....... Tell her that he will never take her for granted if he had the nerve to leave her not asking her opinion. Tell her that if she stays and waits for him 6years ... she will have a miserable life, and will never be happy... AND SHE WONT........... why is it so hard for people to realize the right desions..... anyways i hope that she wont stay with pete and move on...... i greatly respect of what my parents would think of my b/f or fiance or husband.... thier opinions are very important.....

2006-11-18 14:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

She should wait six years for Pete. I'm sure that Pete will behave himself while he's in exotic ports of call, not get blued, screwed and tattooed and he just sounds like a wonderful guy. Does he beat her too! Nate sounds like he's a wonderful guy just like Pete. Why is she waiting anyway? Are sailors not allowed to be married? The sooner Holly and Pete get married and have kids the sooner they can get divorced and join the welfare roles. Mind you own business. I feel sorry for all four of you.

2006-11-18 14:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by xo_heartbeat_xo@verizon.net 3 · 0 0

try to convince her that Pete is just a lying decietful person. But don't say it in a way thats too negative.. try to be nice about it.. that usually works out for the better. Anyway, tell her exactly what you wrote.. He joined the Navy without even thinking of her feelings, She got with a new man, who was perfect for her, Pete found out, got jealous, and wants her back! Tell her shes just wasting her time with this 'Pete' guy. He sounds like an ***... thanks for your time, and I hope everything works out for you and 'Holly'

2006-11-18 14:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Chef Mommy 2 · 0 0

ok nicely you may desire to at the start come to a variety your subject concerns which you had contained in the previous and fasten the excuses for why you broke your engagement off contained in the 1st place. cuz i'm able to promise you that MIARRAGE and that i ring on the finger wont make those problems pass away. i think of its surprising that ur making the main appropriate step and goin to christian counseling, which will probs help very much :) and that i think of that your no longer too youthful to get married given which you the two are extremely mature sufficient and on the comparable point with eachother, if no longer then i might wait it out. i propose you purchased your finished existence to return to a variety on gettin married, and having a baby mutually shouldn't tension you to get married or him goin to the army. be reliable, you seem reliable in the adventure that your coping with all this, so proceed to hang in there. only dont get married just to make it expert and stop him from cheatin foreign places or whutever. worst decision. congrats on the toddler by ways :D

2016-10-04 03:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by lashbrook 4 · 0 0

holly is making a bad decision maybe pete wants attention holly should stay with nate

2006-11-18 14:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by kelsie r 2 · 0 0

Let your daughter decide as it is her personal mattter. As a parent it feels silly to wait for a boy for 6 years that too who is in the Navy. But the less parents interfere the better relation thay can maintain with the children. May be she will meet some one better than him in the mean time and marry. Just leave things to her. Just tell her whatever she does you are with her.

2006-11-18 15:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by rams 4 · 0 0

First off, let me say that she hasn't abandoned you in any way, because it's not up to you what she does. It doesn't matter whether or not you're in favor of it; it's her decision, and you don't get a say in it.

As for whether she should wait, I don't think that she should. But again, it's her choice.

That said, the chances of her actually waiting 6 years for him to return are doubtful. Anyways, it's not like something horrible could happen to her by waiting for him. Just let it be. You'll probably get the result you're looking for without having to interfere. Time will take care of this matter for you.

2006-11-18 14:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by neogeoloco@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0 0

been in the Navy for 17 years most relationships never work more so at early age. She will make her own decisions and there is not a lot you can do. Why wait he can marry her and be stationed with her and they can travel the world together.

2006-11-18 14:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Todd C 4 · 0 0

Why don't you butt out? The only thing your constant meddling has achieved so far is your daughter cutting off contact with her family. Hello!!! Let her make her own decisions. Yes, I agree with you that she's stupid, but if that's what it takes for her to grow up, let her.

2006-11-18 14:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0 0

well u guys just gotta let it go i'm sure holly is a big girl and old and wise enough to make her own decisions...remember u gotta burn to learnt

2006-11-18 14:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Innocence 3 · 0 0

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