I know this family and the man is an associate pastor. They have a 13 year old daughter who is very hyperactive. I have an 8 year old daughter is is very hyperactive also. He tells me and my husband that when my 8 year old grows up, she is going to be getting in a lot of trouble and end up pregnant at a young age. She is not promiscuous. She is just your typical 8 year old know it all. A beautiful child though. His daughter lies and steals and he and his wife doesn't believe me and he accuses my daughter of stealing when it's the other way around. He always says negative things about her. I know she is no angel. No child is. He also says that my husband is the one who gets up with my five month old daughter when I'm the one who does. This man's wife thinks I treat my husband like crap cause his ex wife did. How can they pass judgement when the bible speaks against it and what do I tell them?
2006-11-18 14:15:27 · 19 answers · asked by youngpoet_33 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Did I mention that they live downstairs from us?
2006-11-18 14:24:09 · update #1
If I was you I think I'd do whatever it takes to avoid these people, even if you have to move.
Misery loves company and they are trying to make your family just like theirs.
Find better people to socialize with before your hindsight tells you you should have.
2006-11-18 14:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very first problem is listening to the pastor when it comes to matters of the heart (your daughter). And yes, I do respect the clergy and the enlightenment they provide however, soliciting or even paying attention to advice that is incredibly insensitive is your fault. Also, when you engage in the same rhetoric, even though it's in this forum, you are doing the same thing he is!
Your family is your pride and will be forever. Never treat your children like friends or give in to tear if it's not right. Your job is to raise a human being that is respectful and courteous who can be trusted. You can ask for no more no less.
Of course there is no way anyone can predict how your child will grow up much less be a friend and pastor. Unless there is something else you are not sharing in this question/statement, I would say you don't need to have this person in your life. Choose someone else to talk with when it comes to your child.
On the aside, my daughter was directed to see a therapist that was recommended by her pastor. Her marriage almost ended before they discovered that this so-called professional had his own agenda and it didn't include anything logical. He was in his own world.
2006-11-18 14:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by ggraves1724 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you continue to listen to and associate with this person? There are a lot of churches that you could go to that would help you to avoid him. What does your husband say? What does your family say? How does she do in school? What are the reports from there? Finally, if you know that this person is wrong why would you even bother to listen to his derision?
2006-11-18 14:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by DB Cash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell them goodbye and keep everyone out of your relationship. leave those churches to themselves and focus on your family's well being. the only thing I would prepare for those two is a dear john letter.
changing churces is not the answer. they are all the same in one way or another. they feel they have a right to talk to people like crap because they feel you need them. not true.
2006-11-18 14:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by black orchid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becouse their religan freaks. I dont put anyones religan down and I dont care what people want to beleave in but I hate when people act like they know more than you and their kids do no wrong. Next time they accuse you of something tell them to take a look at themselfs. And if you go to that church switch churches. And get new friends that like you
2006-11-18 14:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by heidi19852006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he had issues- and we can judge and be judged by the measure we judge with- so he is in deep crud= and speaking death= he does not know what he is doing= he should be speaking life= and solutions= not death and condemnation= find a bible believing caring church-D
2006-11-18 14:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus spoke against passing judgment. They that are ready to judge need to take the beam out of their own eye before they can remove the splinter from another person's eye (paraphrase).
2006-11-18 14:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by paulsamuel33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 Corinthians 13
The best way to refute one who will not hear is to live your life before GOD and let Him be the judge. You will be known by your own fruit.
What most people do not think about is that those in the ministry may be just as hurting as those they are to minister to . . . so love them as CHRIST loves you, bless them and pray for them.
2006-11-18 14:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by parkplaceapts144@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy sounds like a jerk. Throwing rocks in glass houses, and all that. Just because he's a pastor doesn't mean he's "holier than thou." What a jerk.
2006-11-18 14:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bestie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the most psychologically screwed up kids that I ever met were minister's kids. Maybe you should change churches.
2006-11-18 14:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋