Hi, I am a 24 yr old guy with lust problem. Since 16, I have always been highly interested in opposite sex. But as a Christian, and due to personal belief, I decided to save virginity till marriage.
Due to high hormone level and high interests in sexuality, I had to find some outlets to release tensions and hormones besides sex. Then I found porn/masturbation which addressed it. At the time, I saw nothing harmful about porn/mb and thought it was all normal thing to do, especially for a teenage guy like me.
About 2 yrs ago, I finally started to feel harmful effect of porn. I would have hard time controlling myself from porn. I also fantasize a lot about sex scenes and hot women I saw from porn videos. My brain has become so sexualized that I think about sex a lot.
Some say this is all normal because most guys think about sex every 10 seconds. But I feel this is wrong. This goes against my belief, moral values deep inside my heart.
How can I gradually reduce sexual thoughts?
2006-11-18 14:07:02 · 13 answers · asked by nicesinging1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There are two ways of going about this. One is to go out and get laid as often as possible. It wont change the frequency of your thoughts but it will make you feel better about them.
The second is to stick to your gins, but go the whole hog, as you've already gone this far.
Quit masturbating completely, throw away all the porn, quit ogling women, and decide that you are capable of controlling your mind.
You will find meditation is a great way to learn to control the mind, so every time you feel like masturbating, meditate instead.
If you want to read a beginner's form of mediation, look at
http://dgwa1.fortunecity.com/mind/fastrack119.html#4%20Daily
2006-11-18 14:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think you can read the Bible correctly? I've read it several times and think it has many strange stories, some bad, some good, some boring. I wonder why the Bible? Could it be that your family are Christians? If you were from a Buddhist family, you would be reading a different book. Are you some kind of prophet sent to tell us something new about the Bible? Sinful pride will damn you long before brother body gets you in trouble. You need to change or start on some meds. This high you are feeling right now that had you "get rid of" all your games and things that you will be missing soon, is going to go into a depression where you wonder why your God has left you. You are seriously disturbed. Answer this one question for me. Are all the other people who read the same scripture as you and have different ideas about them wrong? Are you the only one that has this right? The length of your edits are not a sign that you are in touch with God, but that you are manic.
2016-03-29 01:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main reason you are so attracted to sex is because you're young and the hormones are in full swing. Another reason is because you see it as something dirty and shameful and doing something your not suppose to do is naughty and a real turn on. You will never be able to fully control your sexual desire until you embrace sex as a normal, beautiful part of your life and loose this puritan concept about sex that came over on the Mayflower.
2006-11-18 14:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard one here.. I also have the same problem at times.. I think most people do have this.. but most people are shameful to admit it. but that is not a reason for justifying it. And I think you have already admitted defeat here. Don't do that.. You know and have the promise that you can do all things through christ who strengthens you. You might fall, but you have to believe and have faith that through God you will rise up again and defeat your enemy. When you are down, you can't do anything other than to cry out to God, and you have to believe that he will help. And main thing is that even when you have problems don't stay away from God, pray more and you will get the grace to overcome your weaknesses. God bless !
2006-11-18 14:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by smashingdon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. It's better to masturbate than to sleep around. Try not to go overboard. I was the same as you (and not afraid to admit it) until I got married. Now I have no reason for porn and I am happy with my wife. I dont have to look at other girls, when you find the right person they can satisfy all your crazy needs. Good luck.
2006-11-18 14:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cairo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Through out the porn. Find something that you love to do like a sport or something to take you mind off of it. Go to a monastery for a week. Ask the monks how they cope.
2006-11-18 14:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is re-train your brain. Some people like to say oh its 'natural' because they like to justify their own behavior. But the truth is the more of something you do the more your brain gets accustomed to. Get involved in activities that take your mind away from sexual thoughts! It may take some time but stick to it and I am sure you will clean your hearts of those dirty thoughts! Good Luck!
2006-11-18 14:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a hard thing to do since you have been doing it for so long . but don't worry you can overcome it . put your faith in Jesus for he cares for you and remember that he will give you no more that that you can handle . ask him for a way out of it and he will show you the way and take notice that when you have thoughts about masturbating pick up the phone when it ring's or answer the door when someone knocks on it cuz its god showing you the way out of the temptation. may the peace of the lord Jesus Christ be with you always and always put the Armor of god on in eph6:11-18
2006-11-18 14:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Trace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be addicted to porn, just like some people are addicted to drugs/alcohol. This needs to be addressed with counseling and "cold turky" quitting. You cannot afford to wait until you are married to "satisfy" your urges and help you quit; it may not work! Worse, you could find yourself comparing every REAL woman you try to court with the airbrushed, anorexic models you find in your porn mags and movies. NOBODY CAN COMPETE WITH PROFESSIONAL ACTRESSES. The makeup and coreography are 100% "perfect", and no real woman is!
Get help, and fast.
Peace.
2006-11-18 14:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong if it is getting in the way of your life, and if you truly believe such is wrong
The only way that I could think of reducing it would be to occupy yourself with something else, get rid of all your porn, find a new hobby, maybe even a girlfriend
2006-11-18 14:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋