My friend is one of the most beatiful woman in the world.She is funny,outgoing and well a party animal.She dated this guy who was a player and well long story short he fell head over heels like every guy he told her that he loved her and well she never gave a response.She broke up with him cause she wanted him to be happy and not deal with any of her promblems(family,friends,religion,and cultural(greek&turk=300 year war).Now 3 months later his friendsw curse her out ,he blows smoke in her face,&he is tring to get her jumped.She called in order to meet up with him and he just told her he cant will his g.f. was cursing him out in the background.She then called later to try to talk why he is getting her in trouble and he just asked where his promise ring is.The ring he told her to keep until the death he wanted it back.She told him that she doesnt have it and he flipped out saying that she must have gaven it to a guy meanwhile her mom trew it out.My friend loves him & doesnt know what to
2006-11-18 14:04:12 · 11 answers · asked by kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Kat,
I am not sure if I know exactley what has been going on here, but if she was seeing a 'player' then she was good to leave him because he would have ended up hurting her anyway. He sounds like he is not happy about the fact that she rejected him and is trying to cause her harm for doing this.
These kinds of men don't take no for an answer and he is being like a small child throwing a tantrum because he isn't getting his way with her. But it is serious what he is doing and is trying to frighten her to go out and submit herself to him. by giving in to him and arranging to meet him is going to cause him to think that he is justified in doing what he is to her so I think your friend is not helping the situation by encouraging him to get in touch.
She should keep her distance and call the police if he continues to harrass her over a lost ring. He has to accept that it is gone and that she doesn't have it anymore. By giving it to her in the first place isn't something she should feel responsible for - he gave it as a present and that is the end of that.
She doesn't owe him anything and if he continues to threaten or frighten her, call the police because he sounds very dangerous to me and is using the ring as an excuse to try and punish her for rejecting him when she did. He is a nasty character and the only way she can stop him from trying to treat her this way, is to stop having anything more to do with him.
If she loves someone like this then she clearly doesn't like herself very much and is going to get hurt very badly. It is up to her what she does but the more she sees him or has anything to do with him, it will give him a reason and an excuse to threaten her and make her feel powerless and vulnerable. She isn't guilty for the ring - it was a gift and it is up to her what she does with it after that and this man knows that if you give a gift, it is then up to the person what they do with it - end of that.
Let her know that she is not helping herself by talking to him and meeting up with him. He is with someone else anyway and he is known for playing around with women, so she is far better off out of it and to move on from this as he cannot be with her and he is not the kind of man most women would choose to be with. He is dangerous and she is playing with fire if she continues to have anything more to do with him.
2006-11-18 14:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell a lot of the dumb people on here don't know how to help some one out, any who you friends ex has a real problem if i was her i would just forget about him he isn't worth her but if he wants to do something to her she has to be careful and if she really wants to talk to him she should give him time to vent then when he is calm she could try to explain but if he doesn't want to listen just drop him there is a world out there full of guys take your pic well hope it helps you bye bye
2006-11-18 14:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by hele_val_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stay away from him and you should to as well he is bad news and you said it in the begining he is a player no women want to be with a man because he is a player. you will find out when you get older that if both of you stay away from him you will see that is the best thing that could of happened to you guys in your life.tell her to find a new guy or even some friends and you will see. good luck and have a good life without him.
2006-11-18 14:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Charles U F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend just needs to move on. This guy doesn't seem worth all the trouble. He doesn't really care for her, if he did he wouldn't try to get her jumped and he wouldn't do the other things that he's done to her.
If he cared he'd be trying to fight for her not treat her like crap.
2006-11-18 14:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a book called "He's just not Into YOU".....
now, if that was my story, would it be so hard for you to tell me the truth?....think about it......does she have an abusive father in her background and that's why she's attracted to dirt?
You have a Right to a Rocking Relationship...anything below that is ...just that....below yourself and your needs.
2006-11-18 14:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to cut off all contact with her ex and grow up. Maybe then she'll make smarter choices when she is in another relationship some day.
2006-11-18 14:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a lunatic...better she found out early.
2006-11-18 14:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to write a more clearer question. it's too long! and would take me ages to understand it.
2006-11-18 14:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ambience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is for asking questions, not writing novels.
2006-11-18 14:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by PS 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dnk (do not know)
2006-11-18 14:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋