I've been sleeping with this guy, and I recently found out that he is still flirting with other girls. We're not necessarily dating, but is it normal for me to still feel jealous? When he is with me, it seems as if I am the only one on his mind. But now that I know he flirts with other girls, should I break it off? Why does it bother me so much if it is just casual sex??!!!
2006-11-18 13:48:07 · 13 answers · asked by confused chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are normal. I have been there and done that. I sure in hell hope he is not using you for sex. you do not deserve that. Go and find a guy who will treat you better. MO..sex is never casual. Sex comes with emotions.
2006-11-18 13:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by carriec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you because although it's just casual sex, you want it to be more than that. It's normal for you to feel jealous, but at the same time, you have no right to be jealous or say anything to him. You need to decide if you want to continue to be someone's booty buddy while he can still do what he wants with other people (so can you) or just walk away before your feelings get hurt. It's normal for you to like this guy, but that doesn't mean he is going to like you back in the same way. Just because you are sleeping with him doesn't mean he is going to one day realize what a great girl you are and commit to you.
My suggestion is to stop sleeping with him, but I know that isn't easy considering you probably do really like him. You will feel jealous, but you don't have a right to.
2006-11-18 21:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not gonna judge you. I guess you have reasons for doing what you do but why do you want to have casual sex with someone? Don't you value yourself enough to want a loving, caring relationship and have sex as one of the added benefits? My dear, I can tell you from someone who has experienced it. It is so not worth it. The day will come when you feel so empty and used. If that guy can't commit to you, let the loser go about his business. He's dating other girls...........does that mean anything to you?
2006-11-18 21:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex does not a relationship make. You can feel jealous all you want and yes, it is normal but if you two dont have a real relationship it seems he can pretty much do whatever he wants. If a relationship is what you are after then I suggest closing your legs from time to time would be a good idea.
2006-11-18 21:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel more for him than you want to admit at the moment. Whether you're dating him or not, it's understandable why you're jealous.
I'm not dating someone at the moment, but if he was with other girls or anything, I know I'd be jealous too.
If it is upsetting you, you need to tell him, and if he ignores what you say, it might be better to end it.
2006-11-18 21:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by tahanni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea its normal thats happened to me too. i guess it just means u like him more than u thought and u may want to talk to him about it because it seems to me like u want something more out of this if u are jealous than just casual sex and dating. cuz if u want to "break it off" well u technically can't cuz u guys are not exclusive yet know what i mean??!
2006-11-18 21:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by chica™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you because you obviously care for him emotionally, even if you call it 'casual sex'.
If you want to be exclusive with him, ask him if that's what he wants too.
If not, you'll have to dump him, or deal with his flirting.
If you want to be exl, see if he is into it.
2006-11-18 21:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by Ambience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it stopped being just casual sex...you are starting to like him or there is the other alternative...you want him to be your personal sex toy....but I would go with the first one.
2006-11-18 21:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really complicated!!!
anyway... you really love that guy, dont you?
if you do... and you feel that he also does then find a way on how you can make him feel that you really love him!! so that he will not be searching for the love he expected of you!!
2006-11-18 21:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by lignite... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural for you to feel jealous. you should stop sleeping with him for your own sanity. obviously your strings are attatched.
2006-11-18 21:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋