2006-11-18 13:43:48 · 18 answers · asked by Melisa W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all are, there is roughly same percent of men and women who are excesively controlling.
Anyone who's been in a serious relationship understands the need for trust and the subtle balance between give and take. Sometimes, however, control issues crop up. A person feels insecure, threatened, jealous, and possessive, and all of a sudden, control issues surface. The person feeling all those negative emotions suffers as much, or more, than the person whom they challenge, or try to control.
One of the most unattractive emotions a person can feel is jealousy. I say unattractive because of the types of behaviors that emerge out of jealousy, as well as the nasty attitudes and words that can surface. When a spouse gets jealous, he or she may say things they'll later regret. The green-eyed monster can really be viscous and actually cause a person's perceptions to be marred.
When a person feels jealous, all forms of control and power plays are exerted. From making statements like, "I don't want you to ever talk to that guy again," to "If you love me, you won't go out with those friends of yours anymore!"
The worst thing you can do is to put your spouse in a position of choosing between you and someone or something else. Even if they choose you, they will resent you for exerting control over them.
Possessiveness is a sign of emotional immaturity. It can stem from childhood issues as well as past issues in bad relationships.
2006-11-18 13:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The men are responsible for their actions and you are responsible for yours. If the men in your life are too controlling, let them go and take a look at why this seems to be a pattern in guys you are around. Not all men are controlling.
2006-11-18 13:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are controlling. (Women can be just as controlling as men)
People are controlling because other areas of their life feel so out of control, that they exert control in the area that they think they can. Often on people that are the closest to them.
It makes them feel SAFE.
If you are involved with a controlling man, I would either dump him depending on how much it affects your life, or if he is open to working on his stuff, and can communicate and respect your opinions, then maybe you guys can work it out.
Also, you have to take responsiblity for your own actions: Don't LET HIM control you.
Good luck
2006-11-18 13:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ambience 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
not all men are. I can tell you they cannot control you if you don't allow it. You make your own decisions don't allow people to control you. If you live your life letting someone tell you how to live and what to do then you won't be able to enjoy life and the things you like to do. Good luck Sweetie. Live your life for you!
2006-11-18 14:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because their MEN and besides i LOVE a controlling man in my life.
and thats y im with one right now
2006-11-18 13:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Imma_G_grrl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
they aren't always - i'm a female & have been accused of being controlling in a sly way - in fact last guy i dated admitted that he hated the fact that i had the control cause he always was used to being in control - probably why it didn't work out for us.
2006-11-18 13:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all are, but the ones that are, are on some sort of power trip and very self centered.
2006-11-18 13:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What we learned as children cast us into the adults we've become. Someone significant communicated this behavior.
2006-11-18 13:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by fitzynine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a power thing. They figure the girl won't struggle of trip if powerless.
2006-11-18 13:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by toya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men aren't , BOYS are ! If he's controlling, he's too insecure for me!
2006-11-18 13:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Down to earth 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋