Well i'm young and everytime i meet a boy he just wants one thing are there any boys who aren't shallow

Question

not men but boys i mean 17 and under. i know people say its just a faze but do they ever grow out of it? if you are a boy tell me is that all you think about? just cause i'm hot i'm not easy i have bueaty as well as brains so please tell me beacause one way not to get it is to act like a jerk. If you are male stand up for yourself show there are still some hot gentlemen

Answer 1

This is worn-out female hoo-haw that never ends. My wife is 54 and she is still telling me that I only want one thing. This is totally not true but she uses it a club and beats me over the head with it. When you are 50 you will still be saying the same thing, and I am programming you now to remember this when you do.

Answer 2

Well hun. Sometimes its not the guys fault.

Women often attract guys by your behavior. I am a confident, beautiful, intelligent and very sexual woman, and the way that I sit in a crowd or even how I hold my body gives men clues to things. When I was single I'd wear shirts to show off my chest a little more and did my makeup all the time. I was looking to meet a guy and they could tell. The thing that saved me from looking like a skank was my attitude and sarcasm. I let men know I wasn't easy, and that they should just walk away if thats what they thought.

If you want a nice guy, who is a PERFECT gentlemen remember that males are visual creatures. You don't have to dress slutty to still be beautiful. (I'm not saying you do but alot of girls don't understand that if you dress like a hooker, someone will offer you money and sex). REmember that when these guys are being assholes, not to smile or even giggle at them. Be forceful and short. Say you don't appreciate them looking at you like you are the next great lay. Soon enough your reputation will be that you are a girl who not only morals but can hold her own.

The nice guys are out there and they ARE looking for girls like you. You just have to shift through the BS until you find him. I found my nice guy eventually too.

Answer 3

You describe yourself as "hot". Does that mean you dress "hot" or is "hot" your way of saying you're attractive....

because there is such a thing as a decent, sensible, teenage boy under 17 who may be sensible enough about his own wellbeing and the wellbeing of a girl not to be looking for "one thing" - but if, by any chance, you're giving off "hot" vibes then you aren't going to attract that nice, decent, boy.

Teenage boys are pretty much run by their hormones, and if a girl gives them any idea at all that she may possibly be "easy" that would be enough to make her look all that much more appealing to the young kid who "wants one thing".

I'm not saying its how you dress or act, but there's a chance it could be. If that's not the case, then you're just hanging around with the wrong type of kids. Sometimes the nicer and more decent boys are the ones who seem a little young to girls their age, so they aren't always the ones girls are attracted to. Because they know that, they tend to be self-conscious and sometimes a little reluctant to approach certain girls to ask to go out or just to talk.

So, in answer to your question - there are decent boys who are not just out for "one thing"; at the same time, just because of their age and stage of maturation boys that age often tend to be shallow when it comes to girls (unless there's a really nice girl he admires and respects - and then boys that age get a less shallow).

So either find new boys to hang out with or else ask yourself if you are dressing, talking, or acting in some way that leads boys to think you're "easy". (It is possible to dress in a fashionable and young way without doing things like showing cleavage at school, which is what many girls these days do.)

To attract the right attitude in a boy you have to have send the message (in your mannerisms, words, and dress) that you are not "easy". I only mention this possibility in case that's what the problem is. I'm not saying that it must be your fault they act as they do.

Answer 4

Quote: "....one way not to get it is to act like a jerk." So your saying your willing to give it up as long as he is not a jerk. Does not sound to smart to me. You are only 17, you really not thinking this out to clearly with your brains but your hormones. You know you are looking for action just by how you worded your question "...i'm hot" " ...hot gentlemen". You certainly don't sound like a lady.

Yes, boys do grow into men, but some don't grow out of this 'faze'. You just have to learn how to pick your man.

Answer 5

I'm a decent, good-looking guy that made it past 17 as a virgin.

I think every guy goes through that phase to some degree. It's all a matter of finding a guy with some self-control at that age, and a guy who knows what he really wants (i.e. NOT just sex that young.)

Just keep waiting until you find a decent guy who's worth your while. You shouldn't try to rush things. I hope you find this encouraging.

Also, it should be noted that you're wise not to compromise your values just to get a boyfriend.

Answer 6

Honestly there are a chosen few that are not shallow--LIKE I SAID A "FEW"!And u don't just so happen to stumble upon one of the few who aren't shallow, then u must set the stage for your series. Basically saying if the mail initiates the sex each time then sway him another way,suggest things that require u 2 to be physical just not physical in that way!Tell them the things u like to do and the things u don't like to do and if he throws sex at u first instead of 1 of those things that u like to do then toss him to da curb!

Answer 7

I'm young and "unshallow" lol. And just because I'm 17, doesn't mean I'm a boy....I'm a grown *** man lol. With some people, it's just a phase, but chances are that if a boy is only after one thing right now, that is how they are gonna always, unless somebody teaches them a lesson they'll never forget.

Answer 8

Maybe youre going for the wrong type of guys, maybe you should go for guys who have brains too and not only looks, that way youll have more in common, but boys like that are hard to come by in high school.
or you can tell the boy that there isnt going to be any 'funny business' between you two, and if doenst stick around, forget about him, he didnt respect you for your true value anyway.

Answer 9

I admit there are a lot of guys who act like thta. but see, like me, its complicated cause at the age of 18 everyone thinks im just young and wants some, but in reality, i will probaly have more respect than any other boy my age simply cause i've seen my mother and sister being rented out to men, while my dad made me watch. im not afraid to speak of it, simply cause iv'e learned that that is a thing i will never forget, unless i speak it. you know, i mean there was this girl i met. she really paid not attention to me, but one day i decided to get her attention. so, in the middle of a talent show, i performed. singing all my life, by kci and jojo, adding her name into it. and instead of her being embarrased, she was astonished. that i would do this in front of every one top show how i felt. and since then, i mean girls i knew in school really like to hang with me, cause to me, women are so much more than things we want. To be honest a man couldnt be emotionally healthy without the complex understanding of a woman. i guess yea thats how it is. since women are so much more emotional at times and more complicated in almost every way, that makes us need them, when we are confused about life or anyhting else.

Answer 10

I don't pretend to be very goodlooking myself, but I know a few things about math and puzzles and logic.

And sure, they will indeed grow out of their phase, eventually. Some of them will, anyway.