My girlfriend went to dinner w/ her ex boyfriend,she is in contact w/ him but never when I am around.If he calls when I am w/ her she won`t answer when I am w/ her
2006-11-18 13:22:14 · 22 answers · asked by pssuoff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-18 13:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 21:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a close relationship with your wife and you trust her then it shouldn't bother you if you talk to her and tell her how you feel. If you let this go and she does something else that bothers you then you may let that go also and eventually it will start to eat you up alive. Communication is very important in a relationship. If you have a good communication then that means you can talk about anything and everything. I don't think that your wife sees that she did anything wrong. But there is something not right here. Your wife is telling you that he is a friend but the wife is calling your wife an ex girlfriend. So, it's not hard to see that your wife has lied to you because he was not only a friend but an ex boyfriend. She didn't lie about going out with him but she lied about what role he played in her past. And that is something that you should be concerned about. If you talk to your wife and she tells you that you are making a big thing out of this then you need tell her that you are not. And you need to remind her that because of her and her ex that it is also creating problems with her ex and their marriage. And ask her if that bothers her that the wife of her ex is upset because she went out with her husband. If this would have only been a friend then why do you just learn about him now. Why didn't she want you to meet this friend. And if he has only been an old friend don't you think that she would have talked to you about it first and then she could have invited him at your house for a meal. But this is not how it happened. She met this guy and they didn't only have a meal together because afterward they did other things together. Does this make the picture clearer to you? Can you see that her story does not make sense at all. I'm sorry to say but she is hiding something. And what if you find out the truth and he was he ex boyfriend. Can't you see now that it's going to create problems with you and you are going to question you if you can really trust her. The only way you can solve this is by letting your wife know how you feel. You also need to ask her how she would feel if you had did this to her. If your wife has nothing to hide then you can test her by asking her to let you meet this man. Ask her if she wants to invite him and his wife over for a meal. And while you are asking her that question then watch the expression on her face. You need to get to the bottom of this and the only way for you to do that then your wife needs to come clean with you. If you don't get to the bottom of this then every time she goes out you are going to start to wonder if she is seeing him or not. You say you don't want to sound jealous and possessive etc but this is your wife. While your wife is married to you then you have a right to let her know about your feelings and as a wife she has to respect your marriage vows. You are not being unreasonable. You love your wife and you don't want to lose her. And yes, she DID tell you about being with him BUT she lied about him being her ex.
2016-05-22 02:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this sounds like something to be concerned about. Why is it that she only talks to him when you are not around. I'm sure she would say so she does not upset you, but why is there any need for her to be going to dinner with him. Why is there any reason for her to see him at all. Sounds to me like she is keeping secrets. I'm quite sure if you were seeing your ex for dinner, and ignoring her calls in front of your girlfriend, and talking to her when your girlfriend is not around your girlfriend would have a big problem with that.
2006-11-18 13:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by quietgirla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't be concerned, I would just dump her whorin' a**. Sorry but being a women I think I should know if a women is sneaking around behind your back doing something then something is definately up. Tell her to live happily ever after with her ex, obviously they are ex's for a reason and when she remembers why don't bother calling you to take her unfaithful as* back. You deserve better.
2006-11-18 13:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation. Trusted my boyfriend for almost two years on it because I hated to seem untrusting. If you are never invited along or every conversation occurs only when you can't overhear, then yes. You absolutely should be concerned. Personally speaking and from my own experience, there's no excuse for it.
2006-11-18 14:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by luckyduck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what type of relationship you have with your gf, if you guys trust earchother enough then it shouldnt be a problem. You should make your gf answer the phone when he calls when youre around, so you have an idea of what their talking about.
maybe you should actually try to get to know her ex too, start up a friendly convo sometime. he might not be a bad guy
dont be a pushover, that way you might end up getting hurt.
talk to her about it and stuff.
2006-11-18 13:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Arpan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put her in check, because in my opinion she got something going on between her and her ex and I don't believe its just a friendship thing if she don't answer the phone when your around if you know what I mean!
2006-11-18 13:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-22 15:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless u r goin to dinner with your ex-girlfriend! Better yet if she's goin and ur not and nobody asked u to tag along, I suggest u get a nice warm blanket and hang out in da trunk of da car to see what's goin on!
2006-11-18 13:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.
2014-10-22 15:05:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋