She turned 18 in Sept, is in MA, her grandparents live in Westwood MA......I have joint custody & did pay support for her, her mother's name is Mellissa H.....I am not financially able to go to MA to take the mother back to court for contempt ( I was told by the court I could write her & call her once a week & since court in 88 the mother moved & will not give me a # or address.....I also have no substancial income......Please no stupid answers or fake people.....
2006-11-18 13:13:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-11-18 19:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by duh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow this sounds awful. I'm guessing you've tried the normal ways. If you know where she lives, you can probably find her high school. Contact them and send them a copy of your custody papers and they will have to give you information on her progress. Develop a relationship with her guidance counselor (what with all the phone calls and the papers being mailed), and send your daughter a letter through the guidance counselor. If she's not in high school anymore, it might be a bit harder. But you could possibly use her OLD high school to find out where she's in school now, if she went to college, and contact her through the college. Develop the relationship with the counselor the same way; be very polite and calm.
I'm assuming you have enough income to write letters and make some phone calls. If that goes well, perhaps she will want to see you. That will take money, though, as someone will need to travel.
There are lots of ways it can go, but if you focus on your love for your daughter (not your anger at your ex, no matter how justified) you will have your best shot at having a relationship with her. As she is 18, it is now her choice, neither you nor anyone else can compel her to have a relationship with anyone. Keeping that in mind should keep your focus in the right place.
2006-11-18 13:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your daughter is 18 now, the courts are out of it. She could have moved out on her own. Check for a phone listing in her name.
You will probably have better luck checking out geneology websites. Westwood is in Norfolk County. Here is their website:
http://www.rootsweb.com/~manorfol/manorfol.htm
Check their marriage records to see if your daughter has gotten married (it is possible :) Check to see if your ex has gotten remarried. If so, this will give you another last name to search for phone and address records. I would check the surrounding counties too:
Bristol,Plymouth,Suffolk,Worcester, ansd Middlesex.
http://www.rootsweb.com/~magenweb/
You can go here and post her information and someone (maybe even her) may contact you with information that will help.
If all else fails, contact some of those daytime shows like Maury, Montel, etc. Anything is worth a try!
2006-11-18 13:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to the grandparents? I have a subscription to ancestry.com so if you email me your daughter's full name and her mother's full name and last known address, I can check those databases for you. Sometimes living people can be found in the public phone directories. The other place you could look would be www.whitepages.com or www.superpages.com You can do nationwide searches on both those websites.
2006-11-18 14:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
www.reunion.com I recently found my father after 25 years there. There are discussion boards where you can post your information and people who have memberships (if you can't afford the membership fee) will help do the searching for you and email you with leads. It took me about 3 or 4 months to find my dad with almost no information to go on.
2006-11-18 13:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by April C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a phone # you can do a revderse look up. Try doing a people search or try myspace. You can browse people by name. Since youy pay child support you can ask for her lasrt known address. If you email me I can see if I can assist you.
2006-11-18 13:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do a yahoo people search. I do not wish to discourage you, but do not expect too much if you contact her. She may have endured 16 years worth of "brain washing." Her mother may have told her that you never loved her, never tried to send her money, never tried to find her, etc. It will help if you have saved all the child support receipts or returned letters, so you can prove to your daughter that you have always loved her.
My parents divorced when I was age 2. My father moved to 1,200 miles away, and I grew up hearing that he cared nothing about me. He tried to contact me when I grew up, but I rejected him for years.
If you find her and she rejects you, don't take it personally and don't insult your ex in your daughter's presence, Let your daughter know where you will be if she changes her mind.
Best wishes
2006-11-18 13:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by metamorphosisa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldnt have lot her in the frist place...what happened?
2006-11-18 13:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Nina Lista 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋