I have a friend that used to live with me. She met the guy across the street and moved her two children and herself in with him.
A couple of weeks ago she told him that she was leaving and had to go to a freinds house. It was about 10:00 and she left the kids with him. Well Saturday went by and no Sherri. Her boyfriend called her sister and she told her boyfriend that she would come and get the kids in the morning. Well she finally showed up Sunday morning about 10:00. Her boyfriend confided in me that she has a Crack problem. Well a big scene went down and the police got involved. She hadn't done anything wrong they said so she picked her kids up and left.
Well someone called protective services and they came to the house this past monday.
Well her boyfriend left her $50 this morning to get stuff for the house and no one has seen her since about 10:00 this morning again. She won't answer the phone and we know what sh's doing.
Would it be wrong of me to cal CPS???
2006-11-18 13:12:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
As far as we know the children are at daycare that she takes them too. These children are two and three and are adorable. She screams at them all of the time.
I feel so stupid that I didn't see the signs before all of this stuff happened. I should have been able to see that she was smoking crack. I used to smoke it and I have been clean for 15 1/2 years now. If I had known that she had a crack problem she never would have made it through the front door.
Since CPS was there on Monday and they told her that she is going to have to drop at random I feel that I should call them but I don't want to see the kids in foster care.
We know for a fact that she is out smoking because when she does this she won't answer her phone.
She has another problem with prescription drugs she will eat anything. Xanax, Seroquel, Vicodin ES, Lortab, Valium and any other thing that will mess her up. Please help me. I am so worried about the kids. Would I be wrong to call CPS since she has a
2006-11-18 13:20:40 · update #1
Would it be wrong of me to call CPS or would I be a rotten friend to do so. She is supposed to be in Drug Counseling but doesn't go there either.
Help me out here guys what do I do?
2006-11-18 13:22:12 · update #2
>>> absolutely ... call CPS ,,, you are a great person for being so concerned about the children!!!! being a ex addict your self you know that the drug is the only thing you care about,,, her children need your help , I can understand how you wouldn't want them in foster care , but how would you feel if something terrible happened and it could have been prevented only if you had called. does she have any family besides her sister that could take the children while their mom gets her self together,, these children are in harms way!! PLEASE call the authority's,, if you don't want to do it email me with all the info and I will do it for you. ..I promise you I will help you with this,,,,,,, my sister is a fantastic foster parent and there are many foster homes out there who will give these children a good home,,,, good luck and like I said email me if you need any assistance
2006-11-18 15:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by MissMonk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first concern should be for those kids. I could almost guarantee she is using the money for drugs. it will get to a point where she will care more about the crack than the kids.She is making the choice to do drugs the kids should not have to suffer because of it. CPS usually will put the kids with a close family member... Make the call you will be doing some children a big favor and then Maybe Mom will come to her sense's
2006-11-18 21:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong to call CPS (I assume that is Child Protective Services, we call it Children's Aid over by me). The children's needs have to come first and there has to be an investigation done to make sure that the kids are being cared for properly. I don't know about your community, but in many areas anyone who suspects abuse or neglect has the legal obligation to report it to the authorities. I hope this all works out for the best. Good luck.
2006-11-18 21:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be wrong of you to call CPS. It would be wrong not to call them. As her friend, you want to do what is best for her. At this time, the best thing for your friend would be for her children to be put in foster care and for her to be court ordered to a residential Chemical Dependency treatment center.
At the treatment center she would be on a locked unit (hopefully) and would not be able to get drugs. She would have to participate in the program there and might be able to stay drug free after she leaves.
I used to work as a R.N. on psychiatric and chemical dependency units for many years. Often, addicts say that they had to reach "rock bottom" before they were truly motivated to stay sober and drug free. In other words, the chemically dependent person must suffer the consequences of their chemical use in order for them to become serious about staying clean and sober.
What you would be doing by not calling CPS is called, "enabling". In each chemically dependent person's life there are persons who "enable" the alcoholic/addict to continue their chemical use. The "enabler" does things so that the chemically dependent person does not have to suffer the consequences of their use. ( like you not calling CPS to save your friend from having her children put in temporary foster homes).
I urge you to start going to ALANON meetings so that you can learn how to be a true friend to a chemically dependent person and so that you don't become a "nervous wreck" in the process.
God bless you.
2006-11-18 22:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no - call CPS - we're talking children here!
I don't know which, or if both are involved in drugs or alcohol - but if there is ever any concern over children's safety then make the call.
-dh
2006-11-18 21:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a meth problem and you do, just be ready for some repercussion. I have seen what meth does to people, not a pretty sight. Most users dont realize what they are doing to them selves or to others. Calling CPS might be the best thing for her, it would wake her up before its too late,But you would be labeled as a snitch or something. Just think about it before you do it. once you do there is no turning back.
2006-11-18 21:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by bucktoothal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope........some people may not agree with me but if kids are involved, you need to speak up. It doesn't matter what she does with her life, that's her business but when she may very well be putting her children's lives in danger, that's a whole other story. That becomes everyones business. Personally if I thought those kids were in danger I couldn't live with myself I did nothing and something happened to them.
2006-11-18 21:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's everyone's business to protect children from potential danger. Yes, call them immediately.
2006-11-18 21:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call CPS
think of the children
your friend is on crack that is her problem
but the children didn't ask for this and they deserve help
2006-11-18 21:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bren 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when there is children involved there is no line on where you stop at if my sister was abusing here i would report . come on there babies they should not even know abuot suffering yet . they should be watching cartoons and haveing fun not worring about a drug infested person
2006-11-18 21:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by k dog 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋