Any advice on how to help her through pain when it arises? I try to treat her like she is my queen but sometimes that isnt enough. I want a physical realtionship with this women but am so willing to wait for it. I want to concentrate on our emotional relationship first.
2006-11-18 13:07:59 · 7 answers · asked by questionseeker46539 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I must say that it takes a real man to be this way. What i would suggest if you really love the girl then pray to god and be patient
with her. Eventually she will trust you. She just needs to figure out
how she wants to deal with the past. does she want the past to run
her future or does she want to get over it and go on with her life.
my hats off to ya man. not many men are willing to wate on a lady.
god bless you and i will pray for both of you.
2006-11-18 13:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already doing the right thing by realising the fact that she was sexually abused as a child and it may affect her.
I was in your shoes about a year ago. Just concentrate on the emotional part, take it slowly, take it very slowly. Test the water every now and then so to speak. If she has no trouble making out with you, she's probably ready for something else.
What ever you do, don't ever use her past against her!!!
2006-11-18 21:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very supportive to her. Take things slow and don't go farther than she is willing to go at that time. She will flip-flop back and forth a lot between wanting to be close and needing to put space between you. It will take a very long time to win her trust, and just when you think it is over, she will have another flash-back. It takes a special man to love a woman who was abused.
2006-11-18 21:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her reasons to trust you. trust is THE biggest thing when something like that happens to a girl. way to go with willing to wait till SHE is ready for the physcial part. you're doing fine. she is your queen!
2006-11-18 21:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very easy with her ,take your time she'll let you know when she's ready, there's a lot of things you can do that is not sexual ,to build a strong relationship.
2006-11-18 21:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by queenmeplse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing fine. Continue being patient & loving, and stay the course.
2006-11-18 21:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you are doing great.
2006-11-18 21:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by cool nerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋