Ok, here's the situation. There is this guy who is a GREAT friend of mine and we just went out and broke up 2 days later. He dumped me, and I'm not forgetting about THAT easily. But, there is also a guy who likes me who I kinda like back. I was thinking about going out with him to make the first guy jealous, but I don't want to use the sweet guy who likes me. Plus now I think the first guy is flirting with me to make it worse or something! PLEASE help me =]
2006-11-18 13:04:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's look at the situation from this angle. The first guy hurt your pretty badly, right? You feel that you deserve some form of retribution. That's all fine and good, perhaps immature, but that's your call. However, you're wanting to use the second guy to hurt the first guy. What did the second guy ever do to you? What happens when he finds out that you are just using him? Remember how you felt when the first guy dumped you? The second guy will feel betrayed when he discovers that you're just using him.
I think you should be the mature one here. Suck it up and deal with the fact you were dumped. End of story. It hurts but you'll get over it.
This second guy is a whole new story. For all you know, you just might hit it off and he turns out to be a really good guy. If you use him though, you'll lose that possible relationship.
Is it worth losing something that might turn out to be good just so you can hurt someone who obviously doesn't care? You're only going to be hurting yourself and the second guy.
2006-11-18 13:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, easily asked ques., but difficult to answer because of soooo many things not known. If your "great friend" is in fact a "great friend" , then you and he will be able to sit down and discuss why the dating stopped. You said, you would not forget about that easily. Are you really serious about dating him, or how you are percieved in your circle of friends. If people are truly "great friends", the friendship/relationship will outlast boyfriends or girlfriends. There is no way that in 2 days you can find out that much about a person (who you have already have known for a while) to say "let's not see each other any more". Maybe he thought sex was his main focus. Or were you coming on too strong? Was sex the reason...maybe not. The "sweet" guy, which is probably the one who would bend over backward for you, should not be used as a pawn (in your game). The first guy may be good in scoring points with your circle of friends, but the "sweet" guy may be the one to give you what you need. Isn't being happy and in a fulfilling relationship the important goal? Playing games wastes a lot of time that you could be enjoying with your significant other. If you are the cheerleader dating the captain of the football team, you must ask if you are doing it because of what other people percieve your relationship to be, or if the "both" of you really care about each other? What do you want? What does he want? Is there some common ground? I hope this helps!!
2006-11-18 21:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by wannabuildaboatguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, don't use anybody. Ditch the first guy, because he sounds like a real jerk. If you like the second guy, go out with him,
but only if and because you like him. If you're just going to end up using him, leave him alone. Hearts are worth more than that, and you don't want to be a player like the first guy.
2006-11-18 21:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Israely Jew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just stay friends with the second guy. Flirt with him a lot and the first guy will be jealous and try to get you back.
2006-11-18 21:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy dumped you two days after going out with him. go out with the good guy and let the other guy go. He will play this game with you all the time. that is what guys do. so play games first so they dont get to you first. but never let a man brake you.
2006-11-18 21:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore the first guy he is being a jerk. Be friends with the second guy. Your friendship may continue and turn into a relationship .you may find out you liked him more then you thought you did. Don'nt use him though.
2006-11-18 21:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by baybchica4lif 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally right. Dont go out with this other guy to make your last one jealous, face the facts, its his lost he's no longer with you. If you like this second guy, then go out with him because you want to, but for no other reason.
Just ignore the jerk that dumped you.
2006-11-18 21:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 get the other guy and go on a date to make him jealous he tried to play u sweetheart
2006-11-18 21:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is nice and you shouldn't date him just to make the other jealous cause that's very inmature
2006-11-18 21:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a while and let things cool down. DO NOT "USE" ANYONE that would be like really mean. after everything kind of mellows out talk to the person you like.
2006-11-18 21:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by fatttypants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋