I'm 20 years old and I've been friends with this girl for months. I've grown rather attached to her but the way I think of her is completely different from the way she thinks of me, I'm pretty sure. I like the friendship we have now but I would love for it to escalate to something more, if possible. Should I just lay it all out there and tell her the truth and risk our friendship? Or should i settle for what I have? I don't want to live with regret, but I don't want to lose something like this either..
2006-11-18 12:47:39 · 13 answers · asked by im a mess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her. she knows anyway. she is just waiting for you to make your move
2006-11-18 12:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite her to your place for dinner one night (cook for her do NOT order out) and get a bottle of wine (get a friend over 21 to get it for you). After dinner put in a chic flick. I would not put the moves on her or tell her anything but I would make sure the mood was right. She may feel the same way and might just be waiting for an indication from you. If the mood is right she may make the first move.
If nothing happens then it is just two friends hanging out and you don't get your emotions shot to hell by just coming out and telling her how you feel. I just laid it out for a girl I was crazy about and it back fired on me. Set a mood that lets her come to you or just be friends.
2006-11-18 13:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it. you don't wanna get stuck in the friend zone if you're hoping for something more. just ask her if she wants to hang out, go catch a movie and maybe grab a bite later. you know, just casually. if she says yes, and the whole thing's going well, you can try to kiss her or something. if it doesn't work out, you can tell her it's only a joke, that it's just something between friends. or think fast and go, oh, you've got a little bit of (insert name of sauce) on your lip. you know?
let her see you in your element. you play an instrument? invite her to see you perform. you play a sport really well? invite her to come watch you run around topless. you think it won't do anything? trust me, it will.
good luck!
2006-11-18 12:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by nickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your feelings. Lay them out on the table. If she saids yes, CONGRAD. If she said no, then be a brother to her. Take care of her but in a brother sence. If things don't work out with you two as bf/gf then go back to being a "brother". Good luck. ROCK ON!!
2006-11-18 12:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by celloman2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her the way that you are feeling. Think about what you are going to say before you approach her about it so that you don't sound like a rambler. Love is risky and if it's meant to be it will. Pray about it and God will guide you.
2006-11-18 12:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by janet_67_1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to approach her and tell her the truth. If she is that good of a friend she will know how you feel before you tell her. Good Luck.
2006-11-18 12:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just what you wrote in your question. Would you still want to be a close friend if she was not interested in an intimate relationship? You should understand your answer to that before you proceed.
2006-11-18 12:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should approach her carefully and cautiously. Tell her how you feel, and ask her how she feels about you. Make it sound like you'd be perfectly okay either way, so that she doesn't feel too pressured. Whatever you do, don't pressure her, you don't want it backfiring. Good luck!
2006-11-18 12:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Israely Jew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the friendship you have with her right now and see if it leads to an even greater relationship. This type of decision is the hardest to make. "You're dammed if you do and you're dammed if you don't" type of situation.
I wish you well with this one, it's a touchy one...............
2006-11-18 12:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she already knos shes jus waiting 4 u 2 tell her cuz she feels the same way about u so tell her
2006-11-18 12:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by fuzzy_bubbles_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think I could answer that by telling you what to do, since it's you who must see what your priorities are: you have to see if you like her that much that you'd risk your friendship
2006-11-18 12:50:42 · answer #11 · answered by jonsinher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋