What is the hottest tip anyone has on getting back together with your ex. Any recommendations. I know you definitely do not go on about how much you love him etc. But if anyone anywhere has any tips it would be much appreciated!
2006-11-18 12:43:04 · 6 answers · asked by Jack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He is not worried if she stays at his house and people including his parents see her car there. He says if he is going to give it another chance he needs to think about it a bit longer but he does not want anyone else, he also has a lot of work decisions to make and says they are not getting back together at the moment. She stays there quite a bit (twice this week) and not once has he kicked her out! She turned down his advances and said he either wants the whole package or nothing at all - yet he still didn't kick her out of his bed!! Whats the go with this?
2006-11-18 13:05:00 · update #1
That's a very good question.
I suggest you start by evaluateing what caused your break up from the beginnning. I would strongly, strongly suggest that you consider that the same issues may still be there and I would make sure that you both have dealt with those issues and have gotten some kind of counseling for whatever it was.
If you have dealt with these issues then it may be ok to move forward. The next thing is to not expect your partner to have changed drastically and to not be surprised when you see the same patterns and behavior as you did before.
The key thing to remember that you were attracted to get back together for some reason. Find and lock into that reason and let it be the driving force for staying together this time. Do everything in your power to forget what happened before and to forgive him and yourself for past mistakes. Discuss with him how you really feel, any apprehensions and reservations that you have and then what you hope will happen from this point onward. Discuss any options for handling future issues and be sure that you give him complete disclosure regarding your wants, needs and expectations. Apologize if you need to for anything that you have done and go as far as expressing a plan of action for how you will attempt to deal with your issues as you take responcibility for your part in the relationship.
If you do these things, I can't guarantee that all will be well for ever and ever, but I believe that at worst case you will have an understanding between you and dialog will begin that may even heal past wounds.
Be blessed and know my prayers are with you!!!!
2006-11-18 13:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Willard S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now hang on a minute... if you 2 are not together anymore, there must be some reason for it. so the first thing you need to do is evaluate the situation. is this guy really the love of your life whom you cant live without, or are you just suffering from a temporary broken heart? i find that most people who reunite with an ex do so just because they love the idea of being with someone, and not because their ex is right for them. i think that if you take a step back, look at your situation, and think with your head instead of your heart, then you'll see that you two are separated for good reason.
2006-11-18 20:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by o_snap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally never would attempt to get back with any of my exes. They are exes for a reason. That is the way it will stay.
So not hot tips, no great advice. Just if the relationship ended on friendly terms on both parts, then just start by talking to them... that is all you can do.
No magic powder erases time or fixes broken hearts.
2006-11-18 20:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you need to find out if their feelings are reciprocated. You can't make someone get back with you, you have to know they want to. Once you know that then you should just start hanging out with them again as friends and remind them of how wonderful you are, and what they are missing out on by not being with you. Don't play games or anything like making them jealous, that's immature, just continue being friends until something happens.
2006-11-18 20:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Princess ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person really
you can not push someone back into a relashonship
give them time and space :)
Keep in contact via email or in passing .. let them know you still have feelings but dont be extreme psycho about it.... in a few weeks maybe offer a date to talk things over? :)
2006-11-18 20:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't bug them wait a little bit and then tell them you like them and would like to get back together but definitely know there morals and where the stand on subjects so not to offend them
2006-11-18 20:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋