My 21 year old sister has recently begun dating a man who has some serious psychological problems. He tried to kill himself in front of his now exgirlfriend a year ago. He is now using his suicide attempt and the fact that he still thinks about killing himself to manipulate my sister. She feels so sorry for him that she can not see this. She was a very family oriented and caring independent thinker until she began seeing this guy. Now all of a sudden he makes all of her decisions for her. She was scheduled for her first Pap and he told her to cancel the appointment, she did not need it. The same day our Uncle had a serious accident. She was asked to go to the hospital to be with my Grandma and cousin. He told her that there was no reason for her to be at the hospital and to stay home. She has also confided in me that he is very jealous, she was going out with coworkers one night and he wanted her to stay home cause some were men. How do we make her see the light she will not listen?
2006-11-18 12:39:58 · 3 answers · asked by raynelley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She works 12 hour days in a factory and has to be at work at 7am it is an hour long commute. He will call her at 2 am and not say anything then he will hang up and text message her. When he does this he gives her this pitty thing. He says that he is so lonely and that he feels like he is in a hole and can not get out. The whole I am going to kill myself speel. Then goes onto tell her that he did not talk when he called cause he thought she did not want to talk to him.
2006-11-18 12:43:43 · update #1
We have told her to dump him we have tried to show her what he is doing and she deffends him she will not listen to us at all and she used to value our opinions.
2006-11-18 12:44:45 · update #2
I am so afraid she is going to get hurt.
2006-11-18 12:46:20 · update #3
One of the first signs of an abuser is isolating people from family and friends. The second sign is dictating to them. Unfortunately theres is nothing you can do to change her mind. If you are brave, perhaps you can manipulate him into threatening suicide infront of you, then call the police and have him Baker acted. (commited to a mental hospital)
2006-11-18 13:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she will have to see the nut inside this man her self you can talk to her till she turns blue she needs to find out for her self
2006-11-18 20:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to dump him
2006-11-18 20:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by melissa d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋