Hi I am confident I made the right decision but here is my deal:
A guy I once dated found me online recently. I'm moving back to my hometown in a month or two when he also lives near.
I thought he wanted to get to know me as a person but I changed my mind when we chatted tonight.
The IMs got very sexy and he ended up sending me a picture of his 'private area'
I was kinda shocked but laughed it off in my mind. Then he asked for me to send pictures of my bare breats.
I kept hesitating and finlly he said he would never ever speak to me again and was dead serious if i didnt take a pic and send them right away. Well I thought he was being funny, but then he said 'nice knowing you, last chane to send them"
That turned me off, because as much as I used to like him and stuff, I think its wrong to demand that of me and then say he'd never speak to me again if I didnt.
I dont care how lonely he is and how much he wants me.
Was I right to refuse and maybe lose him ? Now Im glum !
2006-11-18 12:33:57 · 21 answers · asked by merryme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also when we dated, we never had sex, just kissing and heaving making out.
Addtionally he called me and tried to tell me since our IM conversation that he was kidding. SO we talked normally and then 10 minutes later he starts talking about how I should send him pics and I make him touch himself.
Whether he's joking or not, Ive told him I wanted to get to know him again as friends.
Sending the pic of his moster slug is a romance killer. Too bad for him because I was so excited to see him in person in a month or two. Now Id just run away.
Should I just ignore him or tell him to leave me alone ?
2006-11-18 12:37:14 · update #1
Plus during our IM conversation he said he might even like forcing me to have sex.
He then added he was 'joking' but still that was weird too.
2006-11-18 12:53:25 · update #2
You were absolutely right to say no. Bravo for sticking to your guns. If he wanted to get to know you again, as a person, or begin dating, he wouldn't have given you the ultimatum. Be proud of yourself and forget his lame ***.
2006-11-18 12:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by QueenChristine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes finally I find a smart woman...It is so simply hon.He wants only one thing and he kinda sounds like a prev. So yes u did the right thing. Tell him to beat it...You never know he might give up on the pics and sex talk and start acting normal.Good luck
2006-11-18 20:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are in a seriously committed relationship should there ever be 'dirty pictures' and they shouldn't even be digital. Pay him no second thought. He simply wanted some eye candy to get his rocks off to. You'll probably either see or hear from him again, trying to get you to do it again. Just tell him to eff off, or give a good solid kick in the cajones.
2006-11-18 21:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by Fred K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be glum. You were right to refuse to take those photos. If it's not something you're comfortable with, then don't compromise your self respect. He should have considered your feelings and not made a big deal out of it. You did everything right.
2006-11-18 20:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by Holly W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so disrespectful and has no consideration for you. You really need to get rid of this guy. Who is he to give you an ultimatum? That is so wrong. You sound like a good girl who definitely don't deserve that. If you were with him he would probably try to pressure you into other things........Lose him!
2006-11-18 20:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you lost a real LOSER! What a jerk!! You're much better off without him. How disgusting, "send me a picture of your breasts or I won't speak to you again", he's a pervert!
I can't believe you even want to talk to this guy! You're only leading him on by talking to him. Tell him to get lost!
2006-11-18 20:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you were right in doing what you did. Its rude for anyone to ask for nude pictures of another person, especially if they are trying to make things right or get to know a person....It only says that they arent really interested in making things better, just wants to get in between your legs.....
2006-11-18 20:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were right to refuse him. He sounds like a creep.
Regarding your details...yes, ignore him. Run the other way when you see him. He sounds like bad news.
2006-11-18 20:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, good for you. the guy sounds like a huge pervert. like the kind of guy that becomes a pedophile or something
2006-11-18 20:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by coolio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, u had the rite 2 refuse
2006-11-18 20:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋