my dad has just died and im so depressed what should i do?

Answer 1

going for long walks helped me. any exercise helps with any level of depression.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry your dad died. My mom died in 2000 and it was very difficult. I saw a grief counsellor right away where I talked and cried my eyes out. I just needed to talk about everything, the accident, how much I missed her, how much shock I was in, etc, it's my way of coping, I talk it out. And cry. It's important to have somewhere you feel safe with someone you feel safe with or not if you want to be alone. And just talk or write and be able to cry. Tears are healing, it's a cliche but so true. For a long time I would watch sad movies so I could get the tears started, it's very cleansing, a release.

Take sometime off if you need to if you are working and/or at school. Don't force yourself to do anything you don't want to do. You need to just look after yourself. With some time you may start to feel better and then can resume life a little bit at a time as before.

Now, 6.6 years later it still hurts but not in that crushing way. It took me some time to get used her not being in my life, slowly but surely I did get used to it. I didn't resort to antidepressants because when someone dies it's completely natural to be sad for quite some time. It's good to have a therapist or doctor to bounce ideas off of and talk a bit even after the initial grieving time, I would say the first year so you can evaluate how you are progressing.

I hope you feel better soon and that you have support during this time. Take care.

Answer 3

I am very sorry for your loss.

In England we use something natural called "Bach's Rescue Remedy" - it is a flower remedy that is good for shock. You could probably do with it. It is very gentle. There are other flower remedies that help with grieving. There are books available to help decide which is the best flower remedy for you. Maybe someone imports it in the States - if that is where you are from...?
There are different flower remedies in many countries so there may be some specific to your area.

Other than that - if you are very depressed then it is important to try to get into a routine of doing good things for you to help you through this difficult time. I would say number one would be to go for walks in some green place. If you have good memories of your dad in places like this then it could help you to stay 'connected' to him when walking in these places, whilst allowing you the space to properly grieve.

If this does not help then turn to a crisis counsellor (in the UK with have something called The Samaritans that people can ring and talk through things with) or a support group. Alternatively you could go to:
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/grief_support/

This is a Yahoo support group. Here is the info on it:
"Grief Support is a support group for anyone who has experienced a loss. Whether it be a parent, a child, a sibling, a friend, anyone. All are welcome.
New members postings will initially be moderated for a short period in order to prevent spammers or other intruders entering the group for reasons other than the primary purpose of the group."

with best wishes.

Answer 4

I am so sorry that your dad has died! I wish there was a simple answer-but the only thing you can do is follow your heart! Do you have a special friend that can be there for you. If you just need to talk or be held by a friend! You don't have to talk and you don't have to be silent. Whatever you feel is the right thing for you. You haven't said that you wanted to die too, but just incase you do feel that way-it's not the right thing to do. But the feeling itself is pretty normal. You can find some comfort in God, a comfort that no one else can give! He is always there to listen to you and he will always be holding you.
Even if you don't think so, He really is there!!! I know you wish your dad was still here, I know that you are sad, it's the saddist thing that could happen, but if you look to God and listen for Him- you will find that you can bare it - alittle bit more.
I am so sorry for you loss-there is nothing else like it.
God Bless you and if you ever just want to be heard you can always drop me a line. I am a good listener. My E-Address is:
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Answer 5

I am very sorry to hear this. The only advice I can give you is what I did to cope with the death of my mother a few years back. I tried to remember all the wonderful things that she said and did in particular the funny sayings she used, asked myself how would she want me to handle her death and got the answer by knowing how she handled certain situations, by knowing that she loved me and want the best for me. I focused on the positive and slowly the negative thoughts passed. I miss her every day and quite often wish that she was here so I could phone her but she is not so I just do the best I can. Grief counselling could be the answer if you feel you could take that step. Talking about him could help.

I wish you well and that you will get stronger each day but remember this will not happen overnight.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a difficult time.

Allow yourself to grieve. People mean well when they say, "don't think about it" or "You'll feel better soon," but they don't understand what is going on inside of you. Being with friends or family who knew and loved your father may help because you can share thoughts, feelings and memories, or it may help to just be by yourself to think about and remember your father in your own way. Think of a personal way to honor his memory. Sometimes it helps to just go somewhere away from everyone and throw things, scream and cry. Sometimes writing down what you are thinking and feeling is a good way to get it all out. Only you know what will help you feel better.

I hope this helps you and you are able to work through your grief. It's OK to feel bad and to take your time getting to the point where things start to get closer to normal. I wish you strength.

Answer 7

I am so sorry I lost my dad on the 13th of November. So I know what you are going through. I am staying close to my mom and family and we are coping with the lose. I know over time it well heal our broken hearts but boy I don't think it will ever heal I was daddy's girl. That what makes it so hard. So I will say a pray for you and your family and Good Luck

Answer 8

realize it is oaky to grieve. You just lost your Dad!

Try reaching out to friends and other family members. Or try talking to a professional.

I lost my Dad about 4 years ago and I found that looking at pictures helped me. I also wrote a few letters to him which helped with my grief. Visit the gravesite often and talk to him

Answer 9

take comfort in knowing the pain will fade. handle it however feels right to you and know there is no specific way someone should grieve.Remember your dad in loving ways instead of thinking of how he left.I lost my dad at 16 and can tell you that time doesnt take away the loss but it does get easier with acceptance.When you feel yourself missing him and hurting-go to other family members and take comfort in them.dont do anything to "rebel" against his death-live your life in a way he would be proud

Answer 10

The sad thing is there is not much you can do. when i wuz younge i told my dad he could'nt die but he always said one day i will, i cry just thinkin of that day. right now it's best to be near your family there's nothing you can do and no instent happy pill.
you can only hope in time it will get better

Answer 11

Cheer up emo kid! My mom died and it was hard but my brother helped me alot and I got involved with activities and such. I make sculptures, play my Bass, and sing. You could try getting friends and family to consolt you and you could start a hobby (I recomend music)