my bf and his kid live with me and my daughter for almost 2 weeks now, we have been together for 4 yrs, i want for them to leave so much that i am lossing it, but there power is off so they are staying with me.
i am ready to kill his kid as in i want him out of my house right now, how to tell the dad
2006-11-18 12:15:36 · 18 answers · asked by jlw78418 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
he gets in to my stuff
talks back / will not do as he is told
my house my rules
my daughter has asked me when are they going home .
she is almost 8 he is 9
2006-11-18 12:20:30 · update #1
this was only going to be for a few days 2/3 it has been 2 weeks, the dad dose not even have a job, so how is he going to get his power truned back on?
2006-11-18 12:26:02 · update #2
I would dump the boyfriend and his kid.
How long has he been out of work? It takes a couple of months for the power to be shut off, either he doesn't want to work or he doesn't pay the bills. Do you really want someone like that full time.
Also, doesn't he see how his child is acting? Do you want someone like that to be a step-father to your daughter?
I would seriously think about that.
And...how to tell the dad...blunt and too the point, honesty is always the best answer.
I wish you luck in whatever you decide.
2006-11-18 15:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by sylvrrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you read the stuff you typed? You answered your own questions. How much in love with a guy can you be when he cant hold a job to feed and house his own kid? Do you think he would treat you any better? Or your daughter? And imagin what she is feeling? I bet she is scared you might want to live with this man forever. Let him go- tell him living with him has shown you that you dont really like him that much and you want him to go. Good luck with the looser.
2006-11-18 14:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by jeweledfruit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs a quick reality check. You should go and get a tatally legal 30 day eviction notice and let him know that he needs to get on the ball about his place. He should take up responsibility and be morefirm with his son. You should also sit down and calmly express your feelings with him. You will be giving him more than enough time to get a job and the power turned back on at his place with the notice. Good luck.
2006-11-18 12:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad it is whenever that happens, I have a best friend who has 2 boys who are both totally out of control, these kids are the epitome of evil, but I love her so Ive had to tell her straight up how her kids make me feel, it was difficult but she accepted it. However It didn't make anything change and remember that blood is thicker than water.
2006-11-18 12:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by genieejj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you forgot to mention how old his brat is. If it's a young child, he probably still sees mom alot and is close to her and now this situation may be traumatic for him/her. But if it's an older child being disrespectul and abusive, talk to your bf. It he doesn't get it resolved, then you need to come to terms with the fact that he is not the man for you if he's not going to defend you when you are being disrespected and abused.
2006-11-18 12:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well look at it this way, it's not the kid's fault the father doesn't have a job or a place of his own. The poor kid is probably just as upset as you are, having his life turned upside down. Give the kid a break it's his FATHER you should be wanting to kill, not the kid who has no control over his father's lack of work.
2006-11-18 12:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you read your question completely? You can't stand your boyfriend's son and you want that child to leave. So what happens when your boyfriend moves in with you permanently? You seem to have no option but to kick father and son out of your life, irregardless of the power supply. If you want to keep the father then you have to work out how to keep the son. Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings for his son and the conflicts you have. Maybe the son is also trying to get rid of you, the competition.
Good luck resolving the situation.
2006-11-18 12:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by St N 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl, don't kill the kid, I think it would be better if you talk to his dad and tell him how you really feel, like you can't take it anymore. Maybe he can come up with something u know. This can be resolved, don't give up! Goodluck!
2006-11-18 12:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by Unhappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 01:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to be honest and tell your partner in a calm and direct manner - then you can work something out
Good Luck
2006-11-18 12:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋