okay im nineteen, last year i realised i enjoyed the company of women and started seeing my friend anna, but i had been friends with steve since school and we had started getting more intimate with each other. i admit i did two time them for a while but they found out and after alot of arguements they agreed that they would both keep seeing me. but now they have started to tell me to choose after almost a year of being fine with it. I know im being greedy but i like them both as friends and lovers. but niether seems to be okay with me being physical with the other. he thinks its wrong and she would'nt touch a penis to save her life. any idaes on how to get them to open up because i dont think i should have to choose?
2006-11-18 11:49:51 · 16 answers · asked by safer_in_shadow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Others are right, say you can't choose one in favour of the other. At worst, you will probably loose steve, then you can settle in with the her.
2006-11-18 19:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They obviously both love you in there own ways. A year is a long time and both may have thought that you would have made up your mind by now. To be honest i think they have been very VERY soft with you ,.I would have kicked your **** so hard by now.
They are right you do need to decide what you are and if you bi tell them, if you also want to be in several relationships tell them that too.
They can then decide if they wanna be with you... you sound nice so they probably will. good luck
2006-11-18 12:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by nitenurse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should choose cos it's no different to any other type of 2 timing. I can't believe they both let u carry on like this for over a year. Or maybe they should both dump u!
2006-11-18 12:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by rachel d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opt to be with Steve, and let Anna come around. You should find fairly soon what wants to happen. You have more leeway with Steve is why. You will be more yourself with him at this point.
2006-11-18 13:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
safest thing to do is to stop seeing them as lovers and just seeing them as friends, before you lose them as both and that would be hard for you to take. any type of relationship is weird but when you are asked to choose then the tears and heartache are just around the corner
2006-11-18 12:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump them both as lovers and keep them both as friends.
The advertise on the internet that you are bi and looking for someone. You'll get attention from tons of men and women simultaneously.
2006-11-18 11:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like time to decide which you wish to spend more time with as it sounds like your going to have to give up one or the other.
2006-11-18 12:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some liquor and a game played with a spinner and a cloth with colored circles you step on. can't think of the name, though. he could do you while you are going downtown with her. or something like that.
2006-11-18 11:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u haven't commited to either u have the right to do as u please, but eventually u will loose one of them in the end... make a decision of which to keep or u may loose BOTH
2006-11-18 12:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously need to become more decisive !
Surely you know what you want at your age ?
2006-11-18 12:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by scrambulls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋