I've been involved in a FWB situation for the past 3 months. We get along in and out of bed - in fact, we were really cool before we started having sex. Sex seemed like an added bonus. Though I'm fine with our situation, he recently decided that we shouldn't have sex anymore. Tonight I told him that I think he's trying to play me because he changed the nature of our relationship. I said to him, "If we don't have sex then what am I getting out of this? Why should I remain friends with you?" He says, "You should be happy that I don't look at you as a sex object but you're not. And it's clear that you see me as just a sex object. So you're telling me that it's just sex? Then forget it! We don't have to be friends if that's all that I meant to you." Then he hung up the phone on me. At first, I thought that he was being overly dramatic but then I thought about it. I think I might have hurt his feelings. What is your opinion on this situation? What should I do? Why'd I act like that?
2006-11-18 11:49:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This always happens in any FWB realationship especially when sex is involved. Usually what happens is that you start to like this person but they don't share the mutual feelings well where you happy before y'all begin having sex? Then it shouldn't be a big deal. SERIOUSLY you are using him as a sex toy and he told you right, y'all shouldn't be having sex. You really should be glad that he didn't look at you as an object because that usually is what happens but you are using him for your enjoyment and that's not right. Have you ever thought that he might want a closer relationship with you not involving sex. Try apologizing and asking. You didn't need it before from him so return to things like it was before even though I know it will be hard. Godd luck!
2006-11-18 12:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by ADVICEGURL101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like you hurt his feelings, even though you didnt mean to. you probably acted like that because you werent expecting such a drastic change, and it made you upset. It does sound like hes being a jerk though, because sex is a big deal and its a major slap in the face if he doesnt want to anymore, for whatever the reason. Does he even have a good reason, or is he just guy pms'ing?
2006-11-18 19:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by lisa42088 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when friends have sex, its fun while its going on but later on, its bad. Me and my best guy friend decided to do that and now we can't even talk about it. You don't want to end with negative words because you can loose a good friend like this. I think that you can make up with him. Just talk to him and tell him that he means more than you than sex and that you don't want to lose him. Either agree to never talk about it again or ask to be in a relationship with him. Don't never talk again over something like this.
2006-11-18 20:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by baby_blue_trouble10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friends with benefits has changed to something more, at least for him. Think it's decision time. It's obvious that he wants more and the question is are you ready to take it further.
2006-11-18 20:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a FWB?
2006-11-18 19:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋