my and my bf have been together for 2 yrs, he is the type of person that is really easy going..funny way funny..and honest caring loveable,, but he has a problem. he is really jealous. and wont really let me to talk to any guys without starting an argument. with him im not allowed to talk to guys. it should only be him. even if im talkiing to someone that i have no feelings for. i dont think that is fair, since when he talks to girls, i dont mind. i guess im completly opposite from him, in that possiton im not jealous at all., he believes that any extra time that i have on my hands. should be spent with him. and no one else. and thats not right since i have friends too that i would like to hang out with once in awhile. now hes asking me to go back to him beacause he has changed.. i dont know what to do..im so so confused!!
2006-11-18 11:45:44 · 10 answers · asked by Andreia E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take care before you go back. I am older and have noticed time after time that jealous men are usually jealous because they are messing around! You trusted him, but he did not give you that respect back. Respect yourself-stay away. Make new friends!
2006-11-18 11:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him and find someone else.
He may appear to be sweet, but when his jealous emotions come into play, he shows that he's self-centered.
No matter how sweet he appears, such ingrained self-centeredness will hurt you and it will get worse over time. Let him be someone else's problem--not yours.
I know you don't want to lose him and that you think you love him, but at some level you have to love yourself too. The correct choice is to face this headon and recognize he is not the right relationship material for you.
2006-11-18 19:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really want is to stay away from guys like that. Just a matter of time before it escalates into a more solid way of showing you what he means. There is a double standard in that relationship and its best to just walk away until he grows up. He is not ready for an actual relationship.
2006-11-18 19:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Satsune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone is possessive like this it is usually due to something that was done to them in a previous relationship. I encourage you to try to talk to him about it and see what he has to say. If he is willing to change, then he is a keeper. If he is not willing to change, then you should suggest that he get counseling and if he refuses then let him go. If he does agree to counseling let him know that you are willing to also participate. Good Luck.
2006-11-18 19:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful.. Men like that are insecure and may become physically violent. jealousy is cute to a certain extent, but when it gets outta hand, you gotta wonder what the issue really is. tell him that if he REALLY loves you, he should know from jump street that you will NEVER EVER cheat on him and that you deserve the same respect you give him.
2006-11-18 19:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really care about him then give him another chance and if he goes back to the same old ways then tell him whats up and tell him you cant take it any more and leave him... no girl shouldnt be able to talk to her friends, guys or girls, us girls need our space lol so just sit down and talk to him and give him another chance
2006-11-18 19:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by just ask me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a chance. He is young and having a hard time dealing with the intense love he feels for you. I was the same. She stuck it out, been married 26 years.
2006-11-18 19:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone else, he can't change that easily. He likes to control and you are not a pet.
2006-11-18 19:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance :) If You Love Him
2006-11-18 19:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no take chance and avoid
2006-11-18 19:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋