You met this guy online and u know what he loOKs like and he came a thousand miles away to ur house to meet u but he came without permission and all u got is a email from him and saying that he is in a hotel in ur state/country and came to ur house without permission what do you do? plz answer fast!
2006-11-18 11:26:12 · 30 answers · asked by dogreallys 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i saw pics of him. but i hate him!
2006-11-18 11:31:52 · update #1
Put yourself in his shoes... would you up and decide to travel that far to meet someone that you barely knew... why would YOU do it unannounced??
Sounds fishy.... take action to protect yourself... If you wanna establish contact with him... call on the phone... see why he is in your town (business.. Family.. etc) ... get a feel of him... etc...
It's not fair to just assume that he's up to no good... but... it's not fair to yourself to assume that he's not...
If you feel uncomfortable with him... have the police talk to him... or at least make a report about it... the decision is yours really...
2006-11-18 11:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by grimmy19812000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're under 17....you really shouldn't be going on line meeting strange people. For all you know, you would've been talking to a minor or Fugitive or a person that just got out of jail or a runaway prisoner.
Why would he want to meet you? Are you younger than him? If you can answer these questions.....you should know the answer and that would ve really scary. If he is in a hotel near your home state/country.....I would secure and lock your house everywhere. Put locks up everywhere and put curtains over the windows and why did you tell him where you lived in the first place?
If you get another email from him before he comes to your house saying I'm going to your house today or something like that...just say "no, I don't even know you, so please don't come and I'm sorry you came all the way over here for nothing...but please go" And if the emails is scary or threatening to you.....call the police right away and fi you're fmaily or parents are at home. Tell them what you been doing and sure...they'll get mad at you but at least....you're family will be safe once you call the police.
Stay close to someone or go to your mom or dad's work place and hang there all day or somewhere then your house! But other than all this....call the police right away.
2006-11-22 09:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by classy_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in control and protective of your privacy and home. You have got to let this man know from the beginning that "you don't roll that way".
You don't have to be abrasive but do be assertive and firm and let him know that you certainly did not want him to believe that such an action was what you wanted (I hope you can back that up in your email communications).
You also may want to let someone else know that this has happened.
Do contact the police if he approaches your home again uninvited or harasses you in other ways. Be prepared to address the issues of just HOW did this man obtain your phone number and residence information... from you directly or did he STALK you?
2006-11-18 19:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can be a good thing and a bad thing...depends on how much of friends the two of u are or if u really like the person...but everyone would prefer to be notofied before...but don't get u'r hopes down..it could have pleasant reactions too.
2006-11-18 19:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by bigflirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. He is trespassing. And learn a lesson from this. Don't talk to strangers online. You could find a stalker, a pedophile or even a killer.
2006-11-18 19:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd tell him the get the **** away from my house and call me ahead of time like a polite person would do.
2006-11-18 19:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pillsbury D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well obviously i take it you met in a chat room started talking about sex one of you said you'd like to meet you told him where you live and here he is DO NOT MEET HIM how do you know hes not a murderer on-line people can be whoever they want to be don't trust him i take it your gay and you want a man or you want to have sex but meeting up with strangers is the wrong way to go about it take my advice.
2006-11-18 19:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your family will be home soon and they'd love for him to join you at supper (or whatever meal you're about to have.) Lay it on thick how you all do things together and are never alone....
2006-11-18 19:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't talk to him again,
anyway its just an email
does he know your address?
thats bad. dont let him come to your house, tell him to meet somewhere else, talk a little and THATS IT! hehe tell him you have a personal meeting. and send him an email with your "new address", aha.
2006-11-18 19:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go round with some hard mates and scare the wierdo away. Wait a minute you're a guy so you're just as wierd and all your mates will be pansies. F@ck it go round and "do" each other in, two less fags in the world.
2006-11-18 19:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by John H 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋