I man told me that I was very pretty, had a lot going for me, nice family, kept in shape, accomplished and could get any man I wanted. I told him I was attracted to him, liked him and wanted to see him but wasn't ready to date yet because I just got out of a relationship.
Everyone tells me he is nice and friendly. He was respectful to me and for 4 months we continued to talk about work and our lives but one night he asked me how I released sexual tension, if I used a "battery operated device", if I slept with my ex etc... I felt like he was implying that I slept around.
I found this offensive and said so. I said if he respected me he wouldn't have talked to me that way. He said he considered it "mature conversation". I told him I didn't believe it and then he said that "I was an easy target and he could have taken advantage of me" but because he thought "highly of me" he chose not to. I was hurt that he called me an "easy target" and told him to stop calling.
2006-11-18 10:51:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is an issue of respect, dignity, and certianly a blow to your self worth. You did the right thing 100% obviously you werent an "easy target" because it takes a much stronger person to push someone away then to hop into bed with them. You are a high class (and why shouldnt you be?) well mannered person. You should demand respect, and it sounds like you should never talk to that man again. May I share an inspiring quote? Please take this with you throughout life.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" -Eleanor Roosevelt.
Don't let this slime ball have the best of you.
2006-11-18 10:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. Yes this is an issue of respect and of someone miss understanding that just because you were friendly with each other there are certain boundries that someone people don't like to be crossed.
I don't think he was trying to imply that you slept around, but maybe was beginning to ask you about things of a sexual nature because he was interested in sleeping with you. His later reactions make him sound a little insensitive. You were right to say that you found it offensive. He should have apologised. Instead he gets hurt and was quite rude to you.
Good for you. I think you've got someone who could have been quite a bad influence out of your life. But I bet you miss him a bit or you wouldn't have asked the question. Right?
It's ok to miss his friendship, but there are other, nicer guys out there for you to meet.
Good luck.
2006-11-18 10:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
HMmm sounds like your a little uptight. And like you lost a decent guy. Come on after 4 months of talking to him he can't ask a flirty question? WOW I think you should a nun! By the way is this a question or a report? I do have some advice tho - Try one of those battery operated devices it might help you relax a little!
2006-11-18 10:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Good move. This dude is in lust not in love. It is none of his d**n business. The questions are unappropriate from someone who who has been part of your life for 4 months. Your big mistake is to tell any guy your attracted to him 'cause soon as you do the Sex Fairy takes over his brain. The mindset is: Aha! She likes me! Let's see........ how can I get her into bed. Next time tell him to use the brain between his ears & not the one between his legs. Give yourself time to mend your broken heart before a jerk like this crushes it. Good Luck .......
2006-11-18 11:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Diablo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl listen up the man simply asked you a mature adult question? he was trying to get to know something that may have been very important like if you are sleeping with your ex he want take his feelings any further or if you do use a device he may want to replace that device with the real thing himself i dont think you were being called a whore but hey seems like your shoes are on tight easy target came in due to the fact he may have been able to take advantage of you due to the fact that im sure he picked up the vibe you did like him but with that attitude dont believe every man that says you are highly thought of when it comes to looks, money, goal getter etc....... seems like you havent had and now that you have a lil you are high on your self which is good because want no one tap you on the back like you will tap yourself gl
2006-11-18 11:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
A player knows a target when he sees it. He wasn't saying you were "easy". He knows that most guys didn't stand a chance with you. But players know how to read people and he was confident he knew the right things to say to play you. Don't be angry with him, just learn not to be so trusting. BTW, how do you release sexual tension?
2006-11-18 10:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Who's the guy, Bill O'Reilly? This sounds like something straight out of his sexual harassment case. If he doesn't stop calling and talking to you this way, you might be able to sue him.
2006-11-18 11:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry kid he is right he had you in the palm of his hand, and he very easily could have had his way Your naivety is showing in your every action, in staid of taking offence you could have said you feel that is private information and would not discuss with a co-worker, He was the adult, you were just plain childish
2006-11-18 11:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's EXTREMELY manipulative! Stay away from him, and get out of this "relationship" Good Luck honey!
2006-11-18 10:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by HAPPY <3 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He was trying to take it to the next level. As simple as that. If you start dating again you better be prepared for worse moves than that.
2006-11-18 10:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋