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Question

I am going to lose it really I hate my life my dogs and I just want to run away. Look I am no teenager I am an adult who has had it!! I need advice before I drop everything and go. Counciling is something I cannot get right now. We are broke and the holidays are coming. Please any advice would help...

I work 40 plus hours a day. I come home and it is always a mess I am the only one doing anything around here. I take care of my husband and the dogs and its never enough. I am stressed to my limit my husband works 50 hours a week and he does what he can.. I cry everyday.

We are broke because we had many deaths in our family and we had to travel and we are trying to get back on top of bills.
we do not live beyond our means.

Answer 1

I have read a little further about what is going on in your life . Do you remember the love you and your husband had for each-other before you became married and their wasn't as much drama and stress as you have right now ? Both of you need to sit down and talk to each other and remind eachother how much the other means to you. The bills will always be their . Trust me I know . The one you love more than life itself may not be though , and the sad thing is you or he will be loosing the other's love over " Money " . You will both make it if you both stand beside eachother .
Good luck !

Answer 2

40 hour work week for you and 50 hours for hubby? Unreal. Pick up a newspaper and check the classifieds for something better, or there are a million job-finding websites on Google.

Eliminate every hassle and expense you can. Could you live with a smaller car, or not visiting your parents as much? Sounds cruel, but they should understand that you can't be there all the time. Dogs need to go. If you don't like them and they require money/time, then they should find a different home. Having a dog is almost as bad as having a child!

This is less about budget and more about free time so you can feel human.

Also, learn to meditate or do yoga once you have your immediate issues under control. There are classes almost everywhere. It would teach you to calm down and give you more control.

Answer 3

Forget about the house for right now. I am glad you have dogs. Pets are known to be stress relievers. My therapist recomends I take baths. I really don't like baths but they do help. Do you like to read? Maybe go to the library and get some books to read while you take a bath. It sounds like you just need to do something for you each day. Even if it is only 15 minutes. Alot of people get stressed during the holidays because of the demands. Really the holidays are supposed to be about spending time with loved ones. Make a choice now that it doesn't matter about money for the holidays just family time and continue working on the bills and you will eleviate that stress of the "What am I gonna do" syndrome. I am sure your other family members will understand. You will get caught up on bills it just takes a minute. It sounds like your husband is trying to help as much as possible. That is good because men can sometimes be clueless to us women and our wiles. Make sure you tell him how much you appreciate him for being understanding. Again relax and take a few minutes to do something for you.

Answer 4

well after you are broke and after i know how hard it is to talk about things like that to anybody,i think it might help u when u write everything down u exactly feel..dont care about the way u write it and dont care about the words u use.just dont think about that and just let your feelings out on soething u can write it down..of course it will not make it go away but it will make it a little easier to handle life and the feelings u have.
just try it without thinking about how stupid that is or that it wont help anyways....
im sorry that i cant give u a better advice right now,but it really helps sometimes,and i hope it will help u a little..
good luck for you and dont give up!!!

Answer 5

Since your broke I can't recommend your dropping everything and end up living on the streets. I would just try to hand on until your financially able to make the move. There are counciling centers at most churches that are free and in large cities there are places that offer same. Since your computer savy, I would check out sites and places to go on GOOGLE or ASK.COM

Answer 6

you are the only one that can control this situation.i also feel over whelm sometimes with 3 boys a clean house is out of the question,my husband has to help. its 50-50 i refuse to do everything.you need me time go get your thoughts together it does not take money,just take a long walk,take your husband then you can talk,you can fix this,if you don't you will end up depressed,sick ,us women have to stick together all the things we go through.we just have to keep praying god don't put nothing on us we can't handle,sorry you are going through this.

Answer 7

Why are you broke? If it's because you are living beyond your means, running away isn't going to help. You and your husband need to sit down together and make a workable plan and then stick to it come hell or high water. No exceptions.

Answer 8

I need counseling right now too but Im broke too.
I just usually listen to music,and write and I talk to friends about how I feel. But I usually limit it cause I dont want to torture them with a lot of things that dont make sense.

Answer 9

try to get a break and ask family members for help.if that doesnt work tell your husband u guys need help and try to work it out.

Answer 10

Sounds like you are both working too much....
No wonder you have so much stress!