okay he calls me to see if he can see his 2 month babyboy but i heard that he has another kid with some other girl and that he got married should i let him see him or should i be all mean and tellhim to pay me child support in order for him to see him?
2006-11-18 10:35:27 · 17 answers · asked by shygirl200484 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
let him see his son, the rumors may not be true, and even if they are, hey, he's still the father. But yes, he should be paying some support to you.
2006-11-18 10:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he should see his son, unless he is abusive or negligent. You have no idea the bond/ relationship between a father and a son. Your son needs a male figure to identify with. And no one can take the place of his father. No one. He cannot bond with a mother in this way. You should not cheat your son of this opportunity.
Also, you should know that the father can petition the court to see his child. Those visits wouldn't include you. And, of course, his wife would be with the father and your son. Even an abusive parent can eventually get visiting rights to a child, if they cooperate and satisfy the court via therapy, anger management and parenting classes..
You should also go to court to get child support for the child. Best wishes
2006-11-18 11:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he should be paying child support regardless. He brought that baby into the world he is responsible for it's well being as well. Unless he gives up ALL rights to the child and you agree with this. But Child support is exactly that...it is to support the child he is responsible for. It should not be used against him...it's NOT a fee to see his child ..it's support. Now, unless he is a danger to you or the child, or is a druggie or something of this nature then that is different. Then and only then should you keep the child from him. Don't use the child as a spite tool because your angry at him, or jealous or whatever it is. If there is no reason for him to not see the child, then he should be able to.
2006-11-18 10:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never put your child in between you & your relationships. Allow him to see his child. He has a right to be in his child's life. Be thankful that he wants to be, some fathers don't want anything to do with their children. I know it hurts if its true that he may have a child/or maybe married to someone.Just think of the joy you now have with your son, build upon that and you may soon find true happiness with someone. Everything happens for a reason, at times u may ask why and later on in life the answer will be right in front of you and you will be thankful for how things turn out.
2006-11-18 10:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by tanya618 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing - is he the father? Once that's determined 100% - he should be paying child support anyway. You and he made a child together. He will always be in your life via your son. You can't take him away from his son - no matter what's going on between you. I know it's hard - but it's the right thing to do.
2006-11-18 10:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby is his son too, i think he should get to see him whenever it is convienient for the both of you. A child needs his dad and for him to know his real dad id very important, regardless of your selfishness. You don't have to like the fact that he has another child with someone else, or whether or not he is married to someone else. If you love your son at all you would not keep him from seeing his real father. Your lucky that your son's father wants to be a part of his life. Who cares if he is involved with another woman, at least he is wanting to do something!!
2006-11-18 11:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. If the kid is his he should be able to see the child and he should be paying support to help take care of him. Even though that may ruin his marriage, but it's not your fault he was stupid enough to be married and get another girl pregnant.
2006-11-18 10:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never use the game of you pay or you don't see your kid. it will back fire on you.so what if he is now married and has another kid. that's none of your business. let him see his baby, you can tell him that he could come and see him, but only at your place, that at this time you don't want him taking the baby any where.now mind you he may ask that his wife be allowed to come with him. you know you don't have to allow this, but i suggest that you let her, only for the fact that she too will be a part of this babies life and you will want to get to know her, so that you can feel comfortable when it comes time for the baby to go to their place. you need to do this for the child not anyone else.i think that i would ask for the first one or two times he come alone but after that you will need to include her, for your own piece of mind.
2006-11-18 11:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't deny the child or father the rights unless he's a bad influence. Let the Child Support Offices handle him just go fill out the paperwork they will take care of the rest
2006-11-18 10:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by bridgette c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child support if ur right, and you should ask for it. But seing his son is his right and as a human being you should reall allow that, sound like your just mad at him for getting married and having another kid? perhaphs would have been better if he was sitting around moping after you?
Look people move on dont use ur kid as a tool to get back at him, because sooner or later you kid will realize and resent you BOTH, and this world needs caring individulas!!!
2006-11-18 10:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by James A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER deny a father to see their child even if they aren't paying child support because later on the only one your child will blame when they find out is YOU
2006-11-18 10:38:19 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ gina ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋