i really love my girlfriend of about a year now and im ready for commitment. i want nothing more than to spend the rest of my life with her. things is tho that i dont think she truly loves me. she knows i love her and she knows she isnt pressured to say it back if she doesnt feel it. i know i shouldnt rush things at all or try to make her love me and i dont try to but i just wondering if theres anything i can do to help.
2006-11-18 09:40:44 · 15 answers · asked by mitch w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to find out for sure or else you'll lose your time
2006-11-18 09:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by south e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep loving her, getting to know her. The right time will come along, sometimes without planning it.
If you love her enough you'll be willing to wait, BUT if you really feel you can't wait to get a commitment from her then you'll have to organise her favourite thing and ask her.
It could be that she is being very sensible in not promising something that she is not sure of yet.
In the end it all depends on how much you love her, and how much patience you have. You can't rush love, it's got to last a lifetime.
Bide your time
2006-11-18 09:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by helpful Annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with seeing if she feels the same. But dont waste your time if you know in your heart that she doesnt feel the same way about you.
Women love doing this thing where they'll stay in a relationship with a guy that they know they really arent feeling until one of two things:
1) They find a guy that "makes them feel alive" or "find more attractive" and then dumps you
2) YOU grow some balls and start showing them that you can live your life with or without them.
Dude, never put all your eggs in a basket, she WILL make an omlette out of it. Trust me.
2006-11-18 09:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kid A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her you have the patience to wait until she's ready. there's nothing worse than a clingy partner when you're just not feeling the same way. my advice is to take it really easy, no pressure, and show her with actions (not despitation) that you love her.
it takes people time to start to love. i'm sure she's got some sort of commitment with you, so change nothing yet and you'll soon see that she likes you more and more. if the love is fading, THEN come back and ask new questions.
2006-11-18 09:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by B.B Top 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you can help her is be very patient and what for her to be ready to tell you how she feels. May be she does love you but isn't ready to tell you. all you got to think is that if she didn't feel something for you she wouldn't be with you. You could also help by stop telling her that you love her as she might feel pressurised to tell you and in a relationship you dont want that so slow down on her a bit. good luck hope it works out for you.
2006-11-18 10:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by kjw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE IT TIME is the only answer. If you make her feel like something is expected of her too soon, chances are you will only push her away.
If you guys are meant to be, it will happen. It just takes some people a little longer to be sure about what they want for the rest of their lives.
Good luck.
2006-11-18 09:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by h_a_l_e_y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, if you want to spend the rest of your life with her then theres no rush. She will eventually say it. Thats just the beginning of everything. Just be patient
2006-11-18 09:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by lcw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she did not love you hun then she wouldnt have stuck around for so long just giver her time maybe she is just shy about saying it to your face. Dont try and rush commitment it will come when it is ready for her babe ok. good luck xxx
2006-11-18 23:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say, (for the helping part), just be there for her, do small acts of love for no reason, don't cling to her, though, but just be there, and ever once in a while call her while she is away and ask how she is doing, small stuff like that, hope this helped!
2006-11-18 09:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by Curt C. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is nothing you can do to make her love you more, she might just be uncomfortable with her feelings. I am kind of like that, it makes me uncomfortable to tell people how I feel but often I will do alot of nice things for that person, so they can see that i do care about them I just can't verbalize it.
2006-11-18 09:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree you have to give the relationship a chance to work. She is probably holding back because of a past relationship hurting her, let her deal with it but be patient. What is meant to be will be..
2006-11-18 09:46:31 · answer #11 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋