I was with my ex-boyfriend for quite a few years and got really close to his family. We've been broken up for a year (it was messy, long and drawn out) and he calls randomly asking to see me, saying he misses me. He's been living in and out of state and whenever he comes back he tries to see me. The last time was a lil less than a month ago. He called last week left a message that his father died last week, he was crying, saying he thought I'd want to know. His brother called and told me also, and said if I wanted to come to the funeral it'd be appreciated because we were all pretty close. I was torn because I don't want to intrude when he's vulnerable and might see that as a hopeful sign. His brother said I should arrange my visit through him because my ex's WIFE might be jealous if I show up while she's there. I knew NOTHING about him getting married. Now I'm not at all sure how to feel or what to do. Would it be wrong for me to go? And how am I supposed to feel about the news?
2006-11-18 09:35:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Which is more important to you? Going to pay your respect to a man you were close to? Or, dealing with that 2-timing ex of yours?
It's a funeral, be respectful. If you go, do what normal people do, pay your respect, exchange a few civil words with the family and go. If you're not up to it, send flowers. No questions will be asked.
2006-11-18 09:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Miss T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex was married and wanted to get together with you? You are harboring thoughts of him while he is married? This would be a nice time for closure on the situation. You have the reason you needed to move on. Now act on it. Situations like this can define a person. How do you want to be defined?
2006-11-18 17:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Scott M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them some flowers and a note of your condolence for his family sake.When you go,just relate to them as a family friend.No special attention and treatment to anybody if u don't want his wife to be jealous.Just be happy for your ex that he's married and show no bitter emotions about that,remember,you broke up.
2006-11-18 17:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by Phy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I woul avoid the situation and send a card and flowers saying you're sorry you couldn't come.
2006-11-18 17:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. He apparently wants to see you. He's married/ There's nothing to worry about.
2006-11-18 17:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send flowers and a card!
2006-11-18 17:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by prairiegurrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just go to the funeral, it would not be wrong to go, if you see "her" just pretain not no notice her, he should have also told you he is married.
2006-11-18 17:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by MARSHA W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you wasn't close enough to his father to have cried over his death then just send a card and some flowers.
2006-11-18 17:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by tinymight78 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GO his ex can get over it
2006-11-18 17:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by melissa d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well look if its over then its over just be there that's all
2006-11-18 17:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by connie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋