Concern father?

Question

Concern father?
I feel that my children aren't safe with my wifes new b/f i no nothing about him she won't even let me meet him not that i want to all i no is the frist name and where he is from do i have the right to take them we are separate that's it this guy came from no where it is my understanding that he has been incarcerated for two years that brings concern as a father i can care less who she sleeps with my concern are my babys being jealous not by far there are no papers involved we are not even legally seperated. NEW FLASH JUST FOUND OUT HE IS COLLECTING SSI BECAUSE HE TRIED TO KILL HIM SELF BY JUMPING OFF A BRIDGE

Answer 1

If you have his first and last name do a background check on him. You can also request temporary or joint custody of the children, I am not sure the details if you are able to get full custody of the children, but it would be a concern to the court if the mom had ex cons around her children. Since child abuse is so common in broken home these days, you have every right to have your concerns, and I doubt you are jealous. You do need to address your concerns with your ex, or at least speak to her parents. I am almost sure they will agree with your concerns and will intervene as well.

I recommend you start doing that background check asap, your children's welfare should be a major concern. Especially if he have social issues.

I worked in the legal field so what I am saying are facts and not opinions.

I would also like to add to the idiot asshole who made the comment about proper sentences etc. This is Yahoo Answers, not a English class. You don't have to have a English Major, perfect grammar, or a Degree to ask a Fudging question. If you cannot be sincere, and use some sincerity when answering serious questions, then go get a Freaking life and play Sims or something, you idiot! Insenstive piece of ****!

Answer 2

how old are your children? if they are old enough ask them about him.so what is the reason you are given as to why they wont tell you his last name? that seems really strange. maybe she knows about his past and she knows once you find out you will take the kids from her.now i know how this is going to sound, and it is a little underhanded, but here goes. go to the family court and ask for an emergency custody order you will have to explain why you feel that you need one. then go and get the kids. then when it is time for all of you to go back to court to determine where the kids should live, you could ask that she tell the courts about this man so that a back round check can be done on him by you. explain to the court that you have the right to know about a man that has close contact with your children and that you felt that something might be wrong because they refused to tell you any thing about him.

Answer 3

That is pretty extreme. If this is true you have a right to be concerned. Now i hope u are not just throwing these accusations around because of jealousy or wanting ur wife back. If this is true than i would file for custody. U cant take any chances with a convict!

Answer 4

Well it all depends on your x wifes judgement. If you trust her as a mother you will know your children are safe with her, and she will not allow anyone to hurt them. But you also have a right and responsibility to protect your children. And if that means taking her to court for custody to prevent anything bad from happening to those kids, you need to do just that. In the mean time, talk to your kids...let them know they can tell you anything they want, no matter what it is.

Answer 5

If you aren't divorced and there are no court orders you have as much right to your children as she does. I would go get my kids and go straight to an attorney and file for divorce and full custody. If your wife won't let you meet this guy it's because she knows somethings not right and your children could be in a very bad situation, if this person has tried to commit suicide he is obviously not stable.

Answer 6

ok, that's sparkling some are guy-haters who use the be conscious 'feminist' to make human beings think of that's not that undesirable to do what they do and say what they say, precise? Sorta like the death row dumbasses who say they have stumbled on The Lord so somebody will probable have slightly mercy? human beings will use manipulation methods in the event that they're so susceptible. Why take it too heavily while that's some nimrod claiming to be a feminist? =o/ Judging by the excerpt, i did no longer think of i might care to ascertain the object. feels like BS and has no longer something to do with feminism to me, or women human beings even. feels like a team of numbnuts. there is sufficient idiocracy in existence we would desire to pay interest to, so I stay away from something avoidable =o) in the event that they're helping fake allegations and opting to basically throw human beings in detention center without truthful trials, needless to say maximum might agree that's ridiculous...i might wish!

Answer 7

You need to get legally seperated before you can take legal action. You have every right to be worried about your kids. Ask your wife if you can spend a week with your babies. If they are old enough, ask them about mommy's b/f. If you want legal help, you need a divorce.

Answer 8

I would think that you can do whatever you feel is right in this situation as long as there is no legal separation or custody arrangements. You have just as much as a right as she does to your children.

Answer 9

Ok, first of all.. Keep a diary of things as you find them out.
If you're really worried about your safety of the children, then keep a log, WHY? because if you have proof it can help you better when you try to get custody of them. It will show her poor choices as a parent. If you're really THAT worried, then talk to your lawyer.

Answer 10

you should be concern that's your kids. try to talk it out with your wife. and ask her can the kids come stay with you for a while.