My sister's husband died 2 months ago. She was heart broken. And she was 4 months pregnant. It was a sudden depressing moment in our whole families’ lives. 1 month later was the funeral. My sister never showed up. We later learned she was at the hospital, she attempted suicide. She had slit her wrists! And she was pregnant! All of this was not good for our dad. My dad had had a heart attack last year and all this stress was not good for him. Well now my sister is in a mental institution because she is not emotionally stable. Our family fears for her safety and the babies. My other sister is taking this opportunity to do whatever she wants. She is 15 and drinks alcohol. Parties. Never tells our parents where she is. I feel like my sister is being selfish and taking advantage of the situation. What can I do?
2006-11-18 09:29:40 · 18 answers · asked by wiltedredflowers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry if this wasn't clear. My 15 year old sister is being selfish and rude! Not my pregnant sister.
2006-11-18 09:33:27 · update #1
Go to a professional. This is intense and serious stuff, a tragic sequence of events, and I highly doubt most of us here are qualified to counsel appropriately. We have no concept of how YOU are doing nor what you are prone to want to do. Please seek the help of someone trained to deal with such extensive and damaging experiences. You may start with a school nurse or a counselor trained in this field, or even a trusted teacher. PLEASE
Small example, take your own concept of your 15 year old sister. Might her conduct be her way of dealing will all of this hardship? Your older sister tried to kill herself, all abnormal for someone dealing with normal difficulties. I must ask you not to judge either sister harshly. I think she/they all could use direction pertinent to them and based on a complete understanding of the details.
You are a good sister/daughter to be concerned enough to ask. You will get a range of advice in here, from the stupidity and ignorance of the one suggesting suicide to things that may actually work, how do you ferret out what is good and bad? You cannot.
2006-11-18 09:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by gare 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not selfish. She is screaming for attention herself. There are a lot of heavy heavy problems going on, and it seems that your younger sister just can't deal with what is happening in the family, so she is escaping. It sounds like the whole family could benefit by some professional family counseling to deal with everything that has been happening. Some people are stronger than others, and some people handle stress in different ways. If your 15 year old sister is learning to drown her sorrows in a bottle she is setting herself up for a bad future. Let's face it, when you are loaded you cannot make good decisions about anything. It is up to your parents to be the parents and do something about her situation.
2016-05-22 01:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Carmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your youngest sister may be acting out because she is really hurting and is trying to fill the emptiness. When someone is depressed or very upset, often he or she will turn to the easiest way to feel good, e.g., partying, drinking, drugs, sex, etc. Be supportive and offer her help. If she doesn't want it from a family member, try to get her some counseling or at least have her talk to a friend that is a good influence.
2006-11-18 09:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for your family the only thing I can come up with is, pray pray and pray for your family. Hopefully your sister can get help with her depression and your other sister gets the attention she needs and will stop partying so much. If I was you I would seek a counselor out to help with all of this.
2006-11-18 09:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by schell_75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Your WHOLE family needs to get professional counseling! You've got depression, denial, confusion, and who knows what else?? Your sister is probably--or well on her way--to being an alcoholic.
You might bring this up to your parents, but if they ignore this.......YOU get help. Alcoholics Anonymous has programs for family members of alcoholics as well as teen programs. Also talk to school counselors, perhaps they know of a way to get you professional help. You need to learn what is happening to others and how to cope. Thankfully you realize this and can keep yourself healthy.
2006-11-18 09:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thers not much you can do have you tryed tellin her things like ur making dad ill n things that will make her think about things n u shud just look afta ur dad n ur other sista xxx i ope i elped bbe xx n i hpe everythin is fine in the end xx
2006-11-18 09:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by shexi_stacie123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. Your sister was desperate enough to attempt suicide and you're calling her selfish? You need to sit down and think about this.
2006-11-18 09:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww you poor thing. It is ovious you are going through a hard time right now. Maybe you should sit your sister down and explain this to her. If things don't change who knows what will happen.
2006-11-18 09:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats bullshit your 15 year old sister is old enough to know what shes doing i cant believe shes drinking alcohol at a time like this it wont help her and shes stuid set her straight yell the f **** out of her and get her scared set her fuckign *** straight!
2006-11-18 09:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a bloody melo ! if i were you i would keep that sort of drama for myself and try to resolve it within the family ! your young sister is probably terribly shocked by what happened ! do not blame her ! in that sort of situation people need love no blame !! and try to avoid judging them ! it s no good to anybody !!
2006-11-18 09:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋